Family Hierarchies: who is in charge in your home?

"You're free range when I say you're free range

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When a baby is small it would seem to be fairly obvious who is the Adult in charge, but one of the things that often happens in families of children with complex needs is that confusion sets in about this issue.   

Children with complex needs are often more challenging to manage because they are developmentally younger.   Their responses tend to be more intense and more difficult to make sense of.  The level of supervision that is required is h…

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Challenging Behaviour? Are you feeling Healthy Outrage or Out of Control Anger?


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One of the most common responses I find when people begin I Matter Training and start thinking about a child's challenging behaviours is that they begin to become more aware of their own angry responses towards their own child.   Then they find that they are not sure what to do with that anger..

"I know it is not very helpful to be angry with my complex child they tell me, but isn't it normal to feel angry if my child is hitting me or hurting their brother or sister?"

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And we're off!

Yay!  The e-learning Foundation I Matter Class trial is finally running!   I am excited that there are 12 participants - most of them professionals from the Kendal and North Lancs area who work in mainstream settings but are nonetheless in touch on a daily basis with one or more (often many more) young people with complex social-emotional needs.

The class will take place over the next 7 weeks and will I hope give participants an opportunity to step back and think about some important - and fascin…

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