Welcome!
You are in the right place to learn about the I Matter Framework and a Relationship Health Approach
to preparing well for an important role, and for making a difference in challenging times at work and at home
DO YOU WANT TO FEEL WELL PREPARED OR ARE YOU FEELING STRETCHED, OR STRESSED
IN THE FACE OF DIFFICULT BEHAVIOUR OR A CHALLENGING SITUATION WITH A CHILD OR OTHER ADULTS IN YOUR WORK OR HOME SETTING?
Learn how investment in your own understanding and skills can help you use your own role to prevent challenges or turn challenges around, so that you and your clients or pupils, or colleagues, and your own family, can be less stressed and live happier healthier lives!
Are you well-equipped to make good decisions in practice with children and young people?
We love to share the I Matter Framework as a TRIED AND TESTED and a PRACTICAL preparation for ...
UNDERSTANDING
WHAT IS HAPPENING
IN CHALLENGING
SITUATIONS
STEPS TO IMPROVING
ADULT AND CHILD
WELLBEING BASED ON
BUILDING SKILLS
DECREASING
DIFFICULT PATTERNS
SUCH AS AGGRESSION
OR NON CO-OPERATION
TACKLING EVERYDAY
PROBLEM ISSUES
AT HOME OR
IN WORK ROLES
You Have the Power to Change The Future
for your clients, yourself and others you care for!
If you want to help to prevent or address difficulties in your community, or if your pupils or clients are currently:
- Struggling with their wellbeing
- Falling behind in their development
- Not getting on with others
- Experiencing sleeping, eating or other difficulties
- Displaying difficult behaviors such as refusing to co-operate, crying, hitting or other aggression
- Not making expected progress across home, school, and community or work roles
- Having difficulties in adult-child or adult-adult relationships
We work in the Kendal area with a wide range of professionals and organisations.
We'd like to Guide You Through The Maze
I’m Dr Cathy Betoin and this is Jacqui Wilson. We’ve been working with children and families and the professionals who support them for over 2 decades. I am a Clinical Psychologist and an experienced teacher and I was also a a confused parent.
Jacqui trained as a gestalt psychotherapist, and also worked as a foster carer. We both worked in CAMHS services for many years. We now work in a primary care setting in Kendal and describe ourselves as relationship health practitioners.
We know what it feels like to be lost in a world in which there are so many options and no clear path forward. It can be a lonely, scary place. But, we also know what it’s like to come out on the other side - personally and professionally – and to see real transformations.
Over the past 20 years, we’ve worked directly with hundreds of children and families and with their professional networks where difficulties felt entrenched . It has been our great privilege to see the changes that can happen when the clarity emerges, sometimes after years of struggle. When this happens, we have seen there is always someone in there, ready to do the work to make the key difference.
So whether you’re a parent of a young child showing challenges or a parent of an older child, or even if you are a professional, the maze is difficult to navigate on your own - and a good map really helps!
We understand your struggles…….and we would love to help by being your guides and showing you how to prevent big challenges or help you find your way forward!
All our best,
Cathy and Jacqui
Here are some examples of what parents and professionals have been saying
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I Matter Training
“The Kendal Integrated Care Community has adopted the I Matter Framework as a foundation for our thinking about how to work together in our community to help those who are struggling. Professionals and non-professionals are learning together. It feels good.”
Dr Amy Lee
GP Safeguarding Lead Kendal Integrated Care Community
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I Matter Training
“The I Matter approach of considering the adults needs alongside those of the children is such a useful way to look at things and has turned the dynamics on its head for me. I have realised my stress levels are having a huge impact on all of us as a family and learning to change this is starting to make a difference.”
Parent
of challenging teenager
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I Matter Training
“EVERY teacher and parent would benefit from this programme. Parent carers are a group of people I would like to get this to. This would be a fantastic opportunity to bring a very isolated group of people together to improve the situation they are in. ”
Carer support professional
Children and adults of all ages
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I Matter Training
“I am a HLTA but also a parent and foster carer. I work with primary aged children, have 3 teenagers, and foster toddlers! This programme has been so valuable for each and every relationship I encounter on a daily basis. ”
Higher Level Teaching Assistant and Foster Carer
Trained for work and home purposes
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I Matter Training
“This programme has had a big impact on my own well-being which has meant that I have been more able to cope better with the expected and unexpected aspects of life in a calmer rational manner!! ”
School Leader
Key Stage 4 Leader and Parent
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I Matter Training
“The registration questionnaire really got me thinking. I realised how isolated I had let myself become and that this was not helping me or my child. I took action the next day and phoned a friend. I also made another follow-up appointment to speak with my GP. ”
Anonymous
Parent
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I Matter Training
“This training has been so much more than I expected it to be. I have learned so many things that have changed my understanding of myself and of my child. I have worked with many services before this but this has really made the difference. Now I know why I Matter ”
Anonymous
Parent of complex child
About the I Matter approach...
FOCUS ON THE RIGHT
DETAILS, IN THE RIGHT
ORDER
WORK WELL
WITH OTHERS
IN ALL DIRECTIONS.
LEARN HOW TO
PREVENT NOT JUST
REACT TO CHALLENGES
LISTEN TO THE FOLLOWING VIDEO TO UNDERSTAND THE OUTLINE OF I MATTER TRAINING
FOR MORE ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS CLICK HERE
Training in the I Matter Framework helps professionals and the adults and young people they support, overcome confusion and gain clarity so as to be able to help themselves and others in their own homes. schools and communities. Here are some of the schools and organisations that have been working with us to build capacity for more relationship health practice.
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