Welcome to the I Matter Relationship Health Learning Journey

I Matter offers a map that helps you find the way to progress healthier happier relationships.
We help those who are ready to learn, ponder, make changes and persevere, to nurture the relationships they want
If this ignites your interests, read more below..

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Have you heard about Relationship Health and
The I Matter Framework, or about how it can help you?
tinypeople-trans (1) Our step by step training in this overlooked issue develops your clarity, insight and inner strength and helps you make a positive difference through your professional or personal roles: so as to better manage challenging situations, prevent some of the challenges, and with determination, turn challenges around.

Your improved understanding and stronger skills will help you work with others to take the steps you need with less stress, more effectiveness, and a healthier way forward!

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We think personal and global issues are connected.

The I Matter Journey helps you to become part of the solution.

Progressing Relationship Health is Everybody's Business
The I Matter Learning Journey is for you if:
You have felt there is something missing for you and others in the current approach to mental health, education and many global issues
It is for you, and your team, if you want to feel well-prepared for high pressure situations

We love to share the I Matter Framework as a TRIED AND TESTED and a PRACTICAL method for ...

UNDERSTANDING
WHAT IS HAPPENING
IN CHALLENGING
SITUATIONS

IMPROVING ADULT
AND CHILD WELLBEING
BASED ON BUILDING
SKILLS CAREFULLY

DECREASING
DIFFICULT PATTERNS
SUCH AS AGGRESSION
OR NON CO-OPERATION

TACKLING EVERYDAY
PROBLEM ISSUES
AT HOME OR
IN WORK ROLES

PS: There is of course lots written about healthy relationships but Relationship Health (the noun) is something more. It is a thing we can actively care of! Now there is even a book on it (see below).

The science shows us that adults who care have important power to change well-being: for themselves, for children, and for others!

You can make changes that matter... If you want to prevent or address difficulties in your family or community, or if you or your pupils/clients/patients are currently:

Struggling with wellbeing
Being irritable, impatient and not getting on with others
Experiencing sleeping, eating or related difficulties
Having difficulties in peer, adult-child or adult-adult relationships
Experiencing anxiety or loss of confidence
Displaying behaviours such as withdrawal, refusing to cooperate, crying, hitting or other aggression
Not progressing in home, school, community or work roles

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It's easy to be overwhelmed right now...there is a lot to think about
So we support insight and community building and the developing of skills. Your decision making matters. So we encourage you to start with You and your role - making sure you have strong foundations for your own roles in relationships.

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We work in the Kendal area with a wide range of professionals and organisations.

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We'd like to offer you a map through the maze - and help to read the map and then live it!.

I’m Dr Cathy Betoin and this is Jacqui Wilson. We’ve been working with adults and with children and families and the professionals who support them for over 2 decades. I am a Clinical Psychologist and an experienced teacher and I was also a confused parent.

Jacqui trained as a gestalt psychotherapist, and also worked as a foster carer. Both of us worked in CAMHS services for many years. We now work in a primary care setting in Kendal and describe ourselves as Relationship Health practitioners.

We know what it feels like to be lost in a world in which there are so many options and no clear path forward. It can be a lonely, scary place. But, we also know what it’s like to come out on the other side - personally and professionally – and to see real transformations.

Over the past 20 years, we’ve worked directly with hundreds of adults, children and families and with their professional networks. It has been our great privilege to see the changes that can happen when the clarity emerges, sometimes after years of struggle and the power of building community networks. When change happens it is always led by someone determined.

Now we are focusing on preparation and prevention and a global view. So if you are a looking for answers or for some solid foundations for decision making at work/ home we know the maze is difficult to navigate on your own - and a good map really helps!

We understand your struggles, and would love to help by being your guides, showing you how to prevent big challenges or help you find your way forward!

All our best,
Cathy and Jacqui

Here are some examples of what participants have been saying

I Matter Training

“The Kendal Integrated Care Community has adopted the I Matter Framework as a foundation for our thinking about how to work together in our community to help those who are struggling. Professionals and non-professionals are learning together. It feels good.”

Dr Amy Lee

GP Safeguarding Lead Kendal Integrated Care Community
I Matter Training

“The I Matter approach of considering the adults needs alongside those of the children is such a useful way to look at things and has turned the dynamics on its head for me. I have realised my stress levels are having a huge impact on all of us as a family and learning to change this is starting to make a difference.”

Parent

of challenging teenager
I Matter Training

“EVERY teacher and parent would benefit from this programme. Parent carers are a group of people I would like to get this to. This would be a fantastic opportunity to bring a very isolated group of people together to improve the situation they are in. ”

Carer support professional

Children and adults of all ages
I Matter Training

“I am a HLTA but also a parent and foster carer. I work with primary aged children, have 3 teenagers, and foster toddlers! This programme has been so valuable for each and every relationship I encounter on a daily basis. ”

Higher Level Teaching Assistant and Foster Carer

Trained for work and home purposes
I Matter Training

“This programme has had a big impact on my own well-being which has meant that I have been more able to cope better with the expected and unexpected aspects of life in a calmer rational manner!! ”

School Leader

Key Stage 4 Leader and Parent
I Matter Training

“The registration questionnaire really got me thinking. I realised how isolated I had let myself become and that this was not helping me or my child. I took action the next day and phoned a friend. I also made another follow-up appointment to speak with my GP. ”

Anonymous

Parent
I Matter Training

“This training has been so much more than I expected it to be. I have learned so many things that have changed my understanding of myself and of my child. I have worked with many services before this but this has really made the difference. Now I know why I Matter ”

Anonymous

Parent of complex child