Jeff's I Matter Reflections - Being a Dad

Jeff has three children with varied challenges.   He and his wife have both had significant health challenges.   They came to the I Matter Project with support of their primary school and local GP.

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Jeff and I shared some further reflections about the way the culture of schools has changed with respect to pastoral work and the place...

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Anne's I Matter Reflections

Anne has three children all with individual challenges.   She and her partner also have their own complex health challenges.   She has been taking part in I Matter Training with the support of her primary school and local GP

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Here are some further reflections from Anne on autism and other lightbulb moments as confidence has returned


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An Interview with Jenny

Jenny has three children - two with additional needs.  When she joined her first I Matter sessions with support from her primary school she was in a state of significant overwhelm and despair.

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Dear You:   Dear Uma,   Oh That Fog!   Letter #3

Dear Uma, 

The sun is streaming in and I have been sitting here thinking back to the time when I first got to know you.  
That was such a difficult time for you wasn't it and yet you had been actively looking for help for so long.   You had read and rread.   You had taken your child to so many appointments but as the years had gone past your child had got bigger and the meltdowns  had got more and more intense and  actually it was becoming...

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Dear You:  Dear Stan,  Men and I Matter   Letter #2

Dear Stan, 

 It has undoutedly taken me longer to get to know youa as in this wider world of supporting the mental health and wellbeing of children and families there is still such an overdominance of women .  I know I don't need to tell YOU that!    Yet over the years of my practice I have seen that when it comes to the mental health and wellbeing of children men have an absolutely key role to play but they are too often undrerrepresented in the...

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Dear You:  Dear Debbie,  What's an Avatar?    Letter #1

Dear Debbie, 

I know that your time is precious, and that the world you live in is busy. It’s busy for so many of us. So I want to start this letter first of all by saying thank you for agreeing to me to being here in your inbox and thank you for taking the time to read what I want to share and for allowing us to be connected, using the modern wonders of email. I have mixed feelings about technology and its place in our modern world, especially when it comes to our...

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Five Reasons That You Matter

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Have you ever felt that no-one was looking out for you?
Have you ever felt upset or resentful about that?
Or have you just given up asking for your child and others to take you into account?

Of course you matter!  And because you matter, it is important not to just hope that your children and others will one day take you into account.  

SOMEONE needs to be determined to look out for YOU, and though it would be nice if this was your child or someone else, you mustn't leave it to chance...

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What is I Matter Parent-Child Coaching?

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Parent-Child Coaching is something that many parents do without thinking about it.  It involves guiding the child towards undersatnding and skills that you know will be useful and helpful to them in their lives.  

I Matter Parent-Child Coaching has many similiarites.  There are also 5 key differences:

i)  In comparison to everyday parent-child coaching I Matter Parent-Child Coaches start out with a much clearer map or guide to help you decide what to coach and...

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Jekyll and Hyde Behaviour?  5 Reasons you must use developmental thinking if you have a challenging child?

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Just because your child is 10 years old, does not mean that your child is functioning like a 10 year old

In my work I meet a lot of families of children who have developmental delays. Some of these developmental delays are VERY easy for an uninformed observer to miss and it is these more subtle delays that often lead to the greatest confusions for families and for teachers.   Developmental immaturity is one of the key reasons for that common experience of feeling that your child is like...

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