Jeff's I Matter Reflections - Being a Dad

Jeff has three children with varied challenges.   He and his wife have both had significant health challenges.   They came to the I Matter Project with support of their primary school and local GP.

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Jeff and I shared some further reflections about the way the culture of schools has changed with respect to pastoral work and the...

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Anne's I Matter Reflections

Anne has three children all with individual challenges.   She and her partner also have their own complex health challenges.   She has been taking part in I Matter Training with the support of her primary school and local GP

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Here are some further reflections from Anne on autism and other lightbulb moments as confidence has returned


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An Interview with Jenny

Jenny has three children - two with additional needs.  When she joined her first I Matter sessions with support from her primary school she was in a state of significant overwhelm and despair.

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Five Reasons That You Matter

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Have you ever felt that no-one was looking out for you?
Have you ever felt upset or resentful about that?
Or have you just given up asking for your child and others to take you into account?

Of course you matter!  And because you matter, it is important not to just hope that your children and others will one day take you into account.  

SOMEONE needs to be determined to look out for YOU, and though it would be nice if this was your child or someone else, you mustn't leave it to chance...

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What is I Matter Parent-Child Coaching?

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Parent-Child Coaching is something that many parents do without thinking about it.  It involves guiding the child towards undersatnding and skills that you know will be useful and helpful to them in their lives.  

I Matter Parent-Child Coaching has many similiarites.  There are also 5 key differences:

i)  In comparison to everyday parent-child coaching I Matter Parent-Child Coaches start out with a much clearer map or guide to help you decide what to coach and...

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Jekyll and Hyde Behaviour?  5 Reasons you must use developmental thinking if you have a challenging child?

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Just because your child is 10 years old, does not mean that your child is functioning like a 10 year old

In my work I meet a lot of families of children who have developmental delays. Some of these developmental delays are VERY easy for an uninformed observer to miss and it is these more subtle delays that often lead to the greatest confusions for families and for teachers.   Developmental immaturity is one of the key reasons for that common experience of feeling that your child is like...

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The First and Most Important Step in Addressing Child Mental Health Difficulties and Challenging Behaviour

The I Can Control and Calm Myself Checklist is a simple 14 item tool that we use to assess the starting points when a parent or professional is observing mental health concerns or challenging behaviour.  

if you are wanting to see improvements in your child's mental health and behaviour at home or at school then most of the rest of your efforts will come to very little unless you get this key step working well first. 

You are the adult and a key part of this role involves...

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How to handle the Meltdowns: an I Matter Approach

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Most parents dread the meltdowns - whether it is a toddler or a teen - but what if you had a better understanding of what was happening and why?   What if you knew that meltdowns could be used to help build a better relationship with your child?

First things first:  Let's be clear,  it is not just children and young people who have meltdowns.   Adults have them too.  Sometimes a lot.  

And if this is happening in your home or school setting this is absolutely the...

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