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We help you move forward with challenges with new thinking for improving adult and child wellbeing
Have you heard about Relationship Health Practice and
The I Matter Framework?
Our step by step training in this overlooked issue develops your insight and helps you to learn how to use your own role to manage current challenges, prevent some of them, and turn challenges around. Your improved understanding and stronger skills will help you work with others to take the steps you need with less stress, more effectiveness, and a healthier way forward!
We think personal and global issues are connected.
Relationship Health practice helps you to be part of the solution.
We have pathways for individuals and organisations
Do you feel there is something missing in the current approach to education and child-adult mental health and many global issues?
Are you and your team well-prepared and well-equipped for good decisions in high pressure situations?
We love to share the I Matter Framework as a TRIED AND TESTED and a PRACTICAL preparation for ...
UNDERSTANDING
WHAT IS HAPPENING
IN CHALLENGING
SITUATIONS
IMPROVING ADULT
AND CHILD WELLBEING
BASED ON BUILDING
SKILLS CAREFULLY
DECREASING
DIFFICULT PATTERNS
SUCH AS AGGRESSION
OR NON CO-OPERATION
TACKLING EVERYDAY
PROBLEM ISSUES
AT HOME OR
IN WORK ROLES
You have important power to change the future:
for children, yourself and others you care for!
There are changes you can make... If you want to prevent or address difficulties in your family or community, or if you or your pupils/clients/patients are currently:
- Struggling with wellbeing
- Being irritable, impatient and not getting on with others
- Experiencing sleeping, eating or related difficulties
- Having difficulties in peer, adult-child or adult-adult relationships
- Experiencing anxiety or loss of confidence
- Displaying behaviours such as withdrawal, refusing to cooperate, crying, hitting or other aggression
- Not progressing in home, school, community or work roles
It's easy to be overwhelmed right now...there is a lot to think about
So we support community building and the #Earth4All movement.
Your decision making matters. Start with You and your role.
We work in the Kendal area with a wide range of professionals and organisations.
We'd like to offer you a map through the maze.
I’m Dr Cathy Betoin and this is Jacqui Wilson. We’ve been working with adults and with children and families and the professionals who support them for over 2 decades. I am a Clinical Psychologist and an experienced teacher and I was also a confused parent.
Jacqui trained as a gestalt psychotherapist, and also worked as a foster carer. Both of us worked in CAMHS services for many years. We now work in a primary care setting in Kendal and describe ourselves as Relationship Health practitioners.
We know what it feels like to be lost in a world in which there are so many options and no clear path forward. It can be a lonely, scary place. But, we also know what it’s like to come out on the other side - personally and professionally – and to see real transformations.
Over the past 20 years, we’ve worked directly with hundreds of adults, children and families and with their professional networks. It has been our great privilege to see the changes that can happen when the clarity emerges, sometimes after years of struggle and the power of building community networks. When change happens it is always led by someone determined.
Now we are focusing on preparation and prevention and a global view. So if you are a looking for answers or for some solid foundations for decision making at work/ home we know the maze is difficult to navigate on your own - and a good map really helps!
We understand your struggles, and would love to help by being your guides, showing you how to prevent big challenges or help you find your way forward!
All our best,
Cathy and Jacqui
Here are some examples of what participants have been saying
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I Matter Training
“The Kendal Integrated Care Community has adopted the I Matter Framework as a foundation for our thinking about how to work together in our community to help those who are struggling. Professionals and non-professionals are learning together. It feels good.”
Dr Amy Lee
GP Safeguarding Lead Kendal Integrated Care Community
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I Matter Training
“The I Matter approach of considering the adults needs alongside those of the children is such a useful way to look at things and has turned the dynamics on its head for me. I have realised my stress levels are having a huge impact on all of us as a family and learning to change this is starting to make a difference.”
Parent
of challenging teenager
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I Matter Training
“EVERY teacher and parent would benefit from this programme. Parent carers are a group of people I would like to get this to. This would be a fantastic opportunity to bring a very isolated group of people together to improve the situation they are in. ”
Carer support professional
Children and adults of all ages
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I Matter Training
“I am a HLTA but also a parent and foster carer. I work with primary aged children, have 3 teenagers, and foster toddlers! This programme has been so valuable for each and every relationship I encounter on a daily basis. ”
Higher Level Teaching Assistant and Foster Carer
Trained for work and home purposes
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I Matter Training
“This programme has had a big impact on my own well-being which has meant that I have been more able to cope better with the expected and unexpected aspects of life in a calmer rational manner!! ”
School Leader
Key Stage 4 Leader and Parent
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I Matter Training
“The registration questionnaire really got me thinking. I realised how isolated I had let myself become and that this was not helping me or my child. I took action the next day and phoned a friend. I also made another follow-up appointment to speak with my GP. ”
Anonymous
Parent
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I Matter Training
“This training has been so much more than I expected it to be. I have learned so many things that have changed my understanding of myself and of my child. I have worked with many services before this but this has really made the difference. Now I know why I Matter ”
Anonymous
Parent of complex child
About the I Matter approach...
FIRST IDENTIFY YOUR FOCUS CHALLENGE.... THEN
FOCUS ON THE RIGHT
DETAILS, IN THE RIGHT
ORDER.
WORK WELL
WITH OTHERS
IN ALL DIRECTIONS.
LEARN HOW TO
PREVENT NOT JUST
REACT TO CHALLENGES.
LISTEN TO THE FOLLOWING VIDEO TO UNDERSTAND THE OUTLINE OF I MATTER TRAINING
FOR MORE ANSWERS TO COMMON QUESTIONS CLICK HERE
Training in the I Matter Framework helps individuals who want to feel better equipped to respond more effectively in challenging situations. This is so that they can overcome confusion, gain clarity and become better able to help themselves and others in work roles and at home with children and other adults. Here are some of the organisations that have been working with us to to progress relationship health practice.
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