Welcome to Relationship Health Matters!
We are a specialist service for young people, families, adults and teams.
With I Matter Training we help you find the way forward to more confidence and happier, healthier relationships 

Welcome!  Do you want to improve your own understanding and confidence so you can address some current challenges, even in these very difficult times? Our mission is to help professionals, parents and young people move forward via healthier, happier and effective relationships.

You could be interested in preventing challenges and acting early, or you could have been looking for solutions and answers to questions for a while. If so, we think we can help you gain clarity and confidence that matters - if you are willing to work at it.  


My name is Dr Cathy Betoin. I am a clinical psychologist,  teacher and parent. My specialism is in helping you to consider 'the missing link' in challenging situations with adults and children whether in an education, adult or child mental health, physical health or safer communities context.  

The missing link is the knowledge and skills needed to support strong relationship health in adult-child and adult-adult relationships... starting with You. We keep a long view and a results focussed process.

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Our clients learn about the I Matter Framework which offers a practical and engaging integration of the research evidence on what helps children and adults to thrive.  It supports joined up working and introduces relationship health practice.

Who is an I Matter Relationship Health Learning Journey For?  
I Matter Training is for parents and professionals and young people who are ready to take action with others to find the way forward.triangle - only2.JPG

The I Matter Programme provides a stepped approach to strengthen confidence in everyday roles. Participants learn how to recognise the opportunities for effective actions that exist in everyday situations in their own home and work roles so that confidence can grow and adults and children can gain skills and restore stronger relationships over time.

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In these very challenging times, imagine what your professional or personal life would be like right now if you had

- less confusion and more clarity about how to proactively help children and other adults 

- confidence you could work well with others using robust ideas with a strong evidence base

- confidence you can know clearly what the priorities are and how to track progress over time

- confidence that YOU have a really key role to play in your work or home setting

so that key relationships could feel easier and so that you, and others, can thrive whatever the challenges happen to be

You have the Power to Make a Difference!

If you are concerned about a child or adult who is struggling.

If they are finding relationships difficult

Or demonstrating challenging behaviour

Or struggling with mental health challenges

Your insight and understanding matters

In an I Matter Approach to helping your child or another adult we work using a community hub approach. *

Then we start with you!

We teach you the I Matter Framework

We help you read what is happening more accurately

We help you figure out the next key steps

We help you stick with it long enough to bring about results

** A Community Hub involves GP's in a Primary Care Network working with local schools to build skills

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    “The Kendal Integrated Care Community has adopted the I Matter Framework as a foundation for our thinking about how to work together in our community to help those who are struggling. Professionals and non-professionals are learning together. It feels good.”


    GP Safeguarding Lead Kendal Integrated Care Community

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    “The I Matter approach of considering the adults needs alongside those of the children is such a useful way to look at things and has turned the dynamics on its head for me. I have realised my stress levels are having a huge impact on all of us as a family and learning to change this is starting to make a difference.”


    of challenging teenager

  • Relationship Health Matters - I Matter Training

    “EVERY teacher and parent would benefit from this programme. Parent carers are a group of people I would like to get this to. This would be a fantastic opportunity to bring a very isolated group of people together to improve the situation they are in. ”


    Children and adults of all ages

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    “I am a HLTA but also a parent and foster carer. I work with primary aged children, have 3 teenagers, and foster toddlers! This programme has been so valuable for each and every relationship I encounter on a daily basis. ”


    Trained for work and home purposes

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    “This programme has had a big impact on my own well-being which has meant that I have been more able to cope better with the expected and unexpected aspects of life in a calmer rational manner!! ”


    Key Stage 4 Leader and Parent

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    “The registration questionnaire really got me thinking. I realised how isolated I had let myself become and that this was not helping me or my child. I took action the next day and phoned a friend. I also made another follow-up appointment to speak with my GP. ”



  • Relationship Health Matters - I Matter Training

    “This training has been so much more than I expected it to be. I have learned so many things that have changed my understanding of myself and of my child. I have worked with many services before this but this has really made the difference. Now I know why I Matter ”


    Parent of complex child



Feedback from professionals and non-professionals about I Matter Training

Over the last 10 years, professionals, and non-professionals in a wide variety of situations have taken part in our CPD accredited I Matter training programme.  Here is the sort of thing they say...

  • “I Matter Training completely changed the way I feel about my role at work
  • “I Matter Training gave me the confidence that I can help my child and have a better relationship with him.  Even my relationship with my partner has improved!
  • “I Matter Training gave me tools that I wish I had been given so many years previously
  • "The I Matter Framework and Training has been adopted by our Integrated Care Community to support our local strategy for work with children and families"

Now we are moving into a new phase of building a bigger team and sharing thinking more widely.. so if you are in our local area, and have a child with some challenges, and are determined and want help to turn things around then we might be able to help...

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Dr Cathy Betoin is a practising clinical psychologist, an experienced teacher and a parent.  

The I Matter Framework emerged gradually over more than 20 years in clinical practice in response to a sense that something important was missing in our approach to helping children and families. Then it became clear the issues involved all relationships.

The I Matter Learning Journey is designed as a training programme that can help professionals and non-professionals develop a shared language across home, school and community.  The language of the I Matter Framework helps to bring a huge well-evidenced research literature together into a practical cohesive approach to inform some urgently needed shifts in our decision making and approach.


This approach rebuilds the hope and confidence of professionals and parents by providing a language and concepts that we can all work together with that ties elements together. It just makes complete sense

Dr Amy Lee: GP Safeguarding Lead - Kendal Integrated Care Community

'Children's well-being is important to us.  We knew what we wanted -but not how to get there.  I Matter Training is helping our schools pull various disparate initiatives into an organised approach putting adult-child relationship health and children's development at the heart of our school development planning    

Huw Davies and Pete Barfoot  -  Kendal Headteachers

 Training in the I Matter Framework helps adults and young people work together to help themselves and others in their own homes. schools and communities.   Here are some of the schools and organisations that have been working with us to build capacity to help parents

Our Mission is Healthier and Happier Homes, Schools, and Communities:  One Important Relationship at a Time



Nothing presented in the I Matter free or paid course materials creates a client – professional or patient-provider relationship between you and Dr Cathy Betoin or with  Relationship Health Matters Ltd. I Matter Training was developed strictly for informational and educative purposes and should not be considered medical, behavioral, legal, or therapeutic advice. Any specific concerns should be discussed with local service providers. Testimonials are unpaid and do not provide any guarantee of similar results for others.  Read Full Terms & Disclaimer.

You came into your role to make a difference - and this can help!

Contact us to discuss your interests.