Welcome to the I Matter Relationship Health Learning Journey:

Relationship Health offers the foundations of wellbeing and confidence for children and adults - and You have a key role to play
I Matter helps those who are ready to study, ponder, make changes and persevere to nurture the healthier, happier relationships they want. 


Relationship Health has been overlooked but it is exciting.  It involves understanding and skills that you can learn.

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The insight and skills are most important if you work or live in direct roles with children and other adults -especially when there are challenges - and especially if you are someone who wants to make a difference. 

However there is a lot to learn and it can be tricky to know where to start.

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That's where study of the I Matter Framework comes in!

The I Matter Learning Journey is a carefully structured programme that introduces you to ideas you don't want to miss!   You could be wanting to prepare well or you might be facing some challenges right now.

You may have done lots of training, or not very much at all.  Relationship health involves all relationships and so if you want to feel better equipped for your roles there are some foundation ideas and skills that really matter for success in a long term relationships, or life as a parent or carer, or work in professional roles in education, health or community. 

Would you try to build a house without strong foundations?

The trouble with a house without strong foundations is that when the wind blows and the seas grow stormy, a house without strong foundations will tumble and fall.  Things stop working - panic can set in. 

The strength of a house with strong foundations is that when turbulent times arise - which they always do - the core stays strong and protective - and there are plans and habits which support good decisions.

We invite you to learn how to build your own wellbeing and those children and adults you care for on the strong foundations for Relationship Health.   We strongly recommend learning the I Matter Framework! 

Whether you are interested for personal or professional development ...

Here are some key steps to get started...

and find out if training in I Matter and  Relationship Health practice could be beneficial for you
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this programme has been recommended by GP's, teachers, social workers, parents and carers of children of all ages
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some people need more support than others with theory to practice so we have a range of support options
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Relationship Health - the overlooked issue
PS: There is of course lots written about healthy relationships but Relationship Health (the noun) is something more. It is a thing we can actively care of!  Now there is even a book on it (see below).

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We'd like to offer you a map through the maze - and help to read the map and then live it!.

I’m Dr Cathy Betoin and this is Jacqui Wilson. We’ve been working with adults and with children and families and the professionals who support them for over 2 decades. I am a Clinical Psychologist and an experienced teacher and I was also a confused parent. 

Jacqui trained as a gestalt psychotherapist, and also worked as a foster carer. Both of us worked in CAMHS services for many years. We now work in a primary care setting in Kendal and describe ourselves as Relationship Health practitioners.

We know what it feels like to be lost in a world in which there are so many options and no clear path forward. It can be a lonely, scary place. But, we also know what it’s like to come out on the other side - personally and professionally – and to see real transformations.

Over the past 20 years, we’ve worked directly with hundreds of adults, children and families and with their professional networks. It has been our great privilege to see the changes that can happen when the clarity emerges, sometimes after years of struggle and the power of building community networks.  When change happens it is always led by someone determined.

Now we are focusing on preparation and prevention keeping in mind a global view. So if you are a looking for answers or for some solid foundations for decision making at work/ home we know the maze is difficult to navigate on your own - and a good map really helps! 

We understand your struggles, and would love to help by being your guides, showing you how to prevent big challenges or help you find your way forward!

All our best,
Cathy and Jacqui

What Others Say

  • I Matter Training

    “The Kendal Integrated Care Community has adopted the I Matter Framework as a foundation for our thinking about how to work together in our community to help those who are struggling. Professionals and non-professionals are learning together. It feels good.”


    GP Safeguarding Lead Kendal Integrated Care Community

  • I Matter Training

    “The I Matter approach of considering the adults needs alongside those of the children is such a useful way to look at things and has turned the dynamics on its head for me. I have realised my stress levels are having a huge impact on all of us as a family and learning to change this is starting to make a difference.”


    of challenging teenager

  • I Matter Training

    “EVERY teacher and parent would benefit from this programme. Parent carers are a group of people I would like to get this to. This would be a fantastic opportunity to bring a very isolated group of people together to improve the situation they are in. ”


    Children and adults of all ages

  • I Matter Training

    “I am a HLTA but also a parent and foster carer. I work with primary aged children, have 3 teenagers, and foster toddlers! This programme has been so valuable for each and every relationship I encounter on a daily basis. ”


    Trained for work and home purposes

  • I Matter Training

    “This programme has had a big impact on my own well-being which has meant that I have been more able to cope better with the expected and unexpected aspects of life in a calmer rational manner!! ”


    Key Stage 4 Leader and Parent

  • I Matter Training

    “The registration questionnaire really got me thinking. I realised how isolated I had let myself become and that this was not helping me or my child. I took action the next day and phoned a friend. I also made another follow-up appointment to speak with my GP. ”



  • I Matter Training

    “This training has been so much more than I expected it to be. I have learned so many things that have changed my understanding of myself and of my child. I have worked with many services before this but this has really made the difference. Now I know why I Matter ”


    Parent of complex child