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We support individuals and practitioners to explore the theory and theory to practice of improving relationship health

Our Coming Fundamentals Course is on:  Understanding and Moving on with Anxiety for Adults 
with an I Matter Relationship Health Approach

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When you get clearer, stronger and more skilled, life is easier and your roles are more rewarding.  Everyone has a part to play.

Relationship ill health
is at the heart of some of our greatest wellbeing challenges yet we have not been discussing it. 

Relationship health, on the other hand, is an overlooked approach to improving adult and child mental health and wellbeing, helping with anxiety and managing difficult behaviour.  It is exciting and it will get you thinking! 

I Matter Training and the Relationship Health Matters Network promote understanding of key skills that adults and young people can learn. We help those who want to feel better equipped for their important roles with good foundation training.  We would love you to join us in this learning journey.   

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However - even when you WANT more relationship health - it can sometimes be tricky to know where to start.

That's where making time to study the I Matter Framework can help!

The I Matter Framework sets out key theory on which relationship health practice is based. It is a carefully structured integration of decades of research evidence and age old wisdom, set out in a practical, visual and easy to understand form and taught through a series of graphic images and a step by step approach.  It introduces you to ideas that are familiar and others you don't want to miss!   It also helps you make more sense of ideas you may already know quite a lot about.  

An I Matter Relationship Health Learning Journey is for those who want to enjoy and feel more confident in their life and roles but find themselves wondering:

1) is it normal to struggle like this. or for relationships to be this hard or confusing?  

2) Weren't these home and work relationship experiences supposed to be fulfilling and fun? 

3) So, what do I do now... (because you feel you have tried everything and its still not feeling good right now) 

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An I Matter Relationship Health Learning Journey is also for those who would like to be able to look back in 6-12 months time knowing their own actions have moved them on from frustration, irritation or worry and lack of confidence to improved relationship health for self and others at home and at work so as to be able to:

+ Get up in the morning, feeling ready and resourced and looking forward to the day ahead with family, colleagues or clients with varied needs 

+ Know you have equipped yourself with strong evidenced based foundations to address a wide range of everyday challenges 

+ Go to bed with a smile thinking about enjoyable and rewarding relationship experiences from your day 

+ See the progress that is happening and the distance you have traveled with your focus relationship

+ Answer the question, 'what has changed?' with confidence and a twinkle saying 'well now I know why I Matter!

Let me introduce myself:

I'm Cathy, I am a Clinical Psychologist and an I Matter Relationship Health Coach

I have over 25 years of experience working with children and adults first in the classroom and later in child and adult clinical psychology services and then in CAMHS.  I was a also a confused parent. Eventually I realised there was something really important missing that needed a name:  that thing was relationship health

I created this programme because my practice was filling up with smart, capable parents and professionals who wanted to make a difference but were not confident on the foundations needed to support effective decision making.

Improving relationship health isn't simple positive thinking. It's about learning a clear way of understanding what is happening in challenging situations so the decision making becomes easier.

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And this is Jacqui Wilson, a highly experienced relationship health practitioner

Jacqui trained as a gestalt psychotherapist, and also worked as a foster carer. Jacqui and I have worked together for over 10 years in child and family services. 

We now run a specialist Relationship Health assessment and training programmme together in the Kendal, South Lakes area employed by the NHS Kendal Primary Care Network and with social prescribing.  So we work actively with GP's and Schools in supporting parents and carers and young people.

Jacqui and I also work together on the independent programme and on practitioner training.   Over the past years we have worked with hundreds of parents and professionals  

We like to offer you a map through the maze - as well as help to read the map and then live it!.

Our mission is to bring awareness, knowledge and skills for relationship health supported by understanding of the I Matter Framework to 1 million individuals and their families and communities.


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What Others Say

  • I Matter Training

    “The Kendal Integrated Care Community has adopted the I Matter Framework as a foundation for our thinking about how to work together in our community to help those who are struggling. Professionals and non-professionals are learning together. It feels good.”

    GP Safeguarding Lead Kendal Integrated Care Community

  • I Matter Training

    “The first time I completed the questions I didn't really understand what they were all about. By the third time I really understood what was being asked. At first we were really stuck. However It has been exciting to see the progress.”

    Parent of child with explosive behaviour

  • I Matter Training

    “The I Matter approach of considering the adults needs alongside those of the children is such a useful way to look at things and has turned the dynamics on its head for me. I have realised my stress levels are having a huge impact on all of us as a family and learning to change this is starting to make a difference.”

    parent of teenager with challenges

  • I Matter Training

    “EVERY teacher and parent would benefit from this programme. Parent carers are a group of people I would like to get this to. This would be a fantastic opportunity to bring a very isolated group of people together to improve the situation they are in. ”

    Children and adults of all ages

  • I Matter Training

    “I am a HLTA but also a parent and foster carer. I work with primary aged children, have 3 teenagers, and foster toddlers! This programme has been so valuable for each and every relationship I encounter on a daily basis. ”

    Trained for work and home purposes

  • I Matter Training

    “This programme has had a big impact on my own well-being which has meant that I have been more able to cope better with the expected and unexpected aspects of life in a calmer rational manner!! ”

    Key Stage 4 Leader and Parent

  • I Matter Training

    “The registration questionnaire really got me thinking. I realised how isolated I had let myself become and that this was not helping me or my child. I took action the next day and phoned a friend. I also made another follow-up appointment to speak with my GP. ”


  • I Matter Training

    “This training has been so much more than I expected it to be. I have learned so many things that have changed my understanding of myself and of my child. I have worked with many services before this but this has really made the difference. Now I know why I Matter ”

    Parent of child with additional needs