Why Learn the I Matter Framework and about Relationship Health?

Personal Relationships:  Learning to care for ourselves, our children, each other and our planet

You do not move on with personal, local and global problems by blaming others.  You start with You.

Why Learn the I Matter Framework?

For Personal Relationships  (Adult-Child and Adult-Adult)

If you have ever been worried about the wellbeing of yourself and/or of a child or family member or about the state of your relationship, you may have been wondering what to do to move things on?   You might have tried:

+ Searching the internet to understand more
+ Reading books
+ Looking for experts. 

Our recommendation is that you will be able to figure out how to help yourself and others fastest if you first take some time to learn a few core well researched ideas about wellbeing.  

When you have progressed this understanding for yourself then you will be better able to work with experts, and better able to help yourself.   

The good news is the ideas are really interesting, practical and helpful!

Fivesteps to success

So imagine this

Imagine all the time you could spend more enjoyably?
+ Less worrying
+ Less going round in circles
+ Less feeling hopeless and helpless.

Investing in learning the I Matter Framework is a first stage investment in finding a healthier and happier way forward for yourself and for those you care for.  There are no quick fixes (though you probably know that).  However there can sometimes be some quick wins.  
What feels good is having a clear path to find a practical way forward - so you can be part of the solutions - not part of the problems.

Frequently Asked Questions

What about neurodiversity?  

There is a lot of interest in neurodiversity right now.  Our view is that neurodiversity can be a real and an important thing to be thinking about, but it is distinct and needs to be thought about separately from relationship health, though sometimes the two issues overlap.   

The reason that an understanding of relationship health is particularly important when there are any questions about neurodiversity, is that often a relationship health focus can hold some keys to moving things forward.    We have more control over how relationship health progresses than how neurodiversity progresses.

What about the cost of living crisis?  

The cost of living crisis is having a huge impact on many many people.    There are many reasons for it historic and political.    The truth is that there are many really difficult issues happening right now over which we have no control. 

So to make a difference in a difficult situation the key detail we must learn to focus on is discovering the elements we can influence.     When you start looking, there can be more there than might first seem apparent - but it is these details that can help us find the way forward.  This is where your commitment to learning can make a difference - so you can help yourself AND help others.

Is relationship health or I Matter a therapy?

No, relationship health is an idea.   The I Matter Framework is a way of teaching the well researched ideas that support relationship health as being important.  The I Matter Learning Journey is an educational programme that can be supported by group discussion and coaching.  

Learning the I Matter Framework can be a useful way of preparing yourself to get the best of working with family members and with professionals with a wide range of approaches.

What research is there about relationship health?

This is interesting.  Every idea that we teach in the I Matter Framework is supported by a great deal of research.  Many traditions have concluded that relationships are key to wellbeing.   However the term Relationship Health is new!     You can find these ideas described in my books on Relationship Health as the missing Link in adult and child wellbeing.  Click here to read more

We love this term!