Vision for a Way Forward
What you need to know
HERE IS THE COMMON PATHWAY WE HAVE SEEN FOR PARENTS IN KENDAL-MORECAMBE BAY AND BEYOND
Dr Cathy Betoin
Sophie, Robin’s mum, approaches her school with a concern about Robin’s behaviour at home.
+ there are frequent tantrums, poor sleep and she is worried someone is going to get hurt.
+ Few issues are seen at school
+ So school feels it is not their concern or responsibility.
+ School advises that Sophie goes to the GP.
+ GP explains Robin’s challenging behaviour is not their role so they will refer to CAMHS.
+ CAMHS referral rejected as child does not meet threshold. Sophie protests
+ GP at a loss and refers to Paediatrics.
+ Paediatrics – several appointments - possible ADHD? Sophie is offered medication for Robin.
+ Sophie offered short workshop for herself, and a short intervention offered for Robin, nothing else
+ At home Robin continues to be difficult, anxious and challenging. Follow up months later
+ Sophie is exhausted, depressed and increasingly isolated – she feels she has done what she can
+ Robin’s behaviour becomes increasingly escalated starting to deteriorate in school.
+ Warnings lead to exclusions and Sophie is called into school for a meeting
+ Sophie described by staff members as being uncooperative - even aggressive – this is ‘a parenting issue’
+ Safeguarding services are pulled in. Then the police are called in. Then specialist mental health services
+ Supporting Sophie’s role and her lack of confidence is still overlooked – ‘not our role?’
+ Lots of professional activity but poor result - and sadly common. Parents who go looking for help in the Kendal-Morecambe Bay area often find it very difficult to access. The result has impact on everyone.
Here is what COULD be happening once we start to surface from the crisis period
Sophie is a parent in the Kendal and Morecambe Bay area – or beyond .. where there is a local I Matter Community Building Strategy - known as Parents and Carers are Part of the Workforce.
+ via Public Health Sophie knows her role in her child’s development & wellbeing is really important.
+ Professionals she meets know that supporting her confidence in her role and participation is really key.
+ Everyone knows that supporting Sophies skills development is key to community health outcomes.
+ Sophie and her partner Steve started I Matter learning about caring for children and older adults in school
+ They learned about brain development and how to observe children’s behaviour carefully
+ Classes were so interesting that Sophie and Steve had become skilled with valued & interesting skills.
+ Sophie even encourages her own Mum & Dad to take part in local classes – everyone chips in
+ since then everyone has started being more interested in what was happening when tempers flared.
+ So, when Sophie has some difficulties with Robin at home she knows she can find informed support
+ When Sophie asks for help, there is a community of informed family and professionals around her.
+ Some professionals know how to check whether the school day is meeting Robin’s developmental needs
+ Others check that staff caring for Robin feel supported & understand how to meet developmental needs.
+ Others help Sophie look at support options: some run in school, some in the community,
+ Family and friends know how to think together and pull together
+ Sophie rebuilds her confidence with Robin through local community support.
+ Expensive reactive help not needed. Robin MUCH happier and easier to teach. Community safer.
Not so difficult to imagine, is it?
COVID-19 is not just a hospital crisis it is also a community crisis. After years of neglect of community thinking we have without notice sent children home to families many of whom are unprepared for the key role that they need to play in their children’s development and wellbeing. The duration is indefinite.
So, now, building on the work we have been doing with GP’s and Schools in the Kendal ICC area we want to support the community with a crisis response AND some longer term thinking.
We want to help schools and community assist staff and families on the learning journey that they are going to need to travel – so as to survive right now and thrive - keeping the longer view in mind.
CRISIS RESPONSE: Right now - I Matter Training provides strategy, theory and practical implementation
+ A means to engage first staff and then families quickly with a way of thinking that helps them grasp their own key role.
+ A means of grouping staff, parent and family needs fast according to the different types of needs that are presenting
+ A carefully structured learning journey with an Award: First Steps, Foundation, Intermediate, Advanced Certifications
+ Specialist consultations for parents who need clear early guidance when difficulties are emerging
+ An offer for often overlooked parents-carers with children with longer term social emotional challenges
+ Support with joining up thinking and progress tracking for complex longer term care delivery packages
Our immediate priority is based on sharing a clear outlook that supports working together with a plan:
Participation is based on subscriptions from member schools and services and individual profs and parents
Establishment of a responsive programme of crisis training for professionals and parents with certification
Parent consultations – for immediate guidance and joined up direction finding for complex care delivery
Organisations join the project with a CORE MEMBERSHIP (see below) with EXTRA for staff/parent training ORGANISATIONAL - Initial 2 year min - plan is 90min call PROFESSIONAL MEMBERSHIP
Small <300 pupils £500pa 2 plans + Network + min £1000pa
Medium >300 pupils £1000pa 4 plans + Network + min £1500pa
Large >1000pupils £1500pa 6 plans + Network + min £2000pa
FRIEND OF I MATTER: SUBSCRIBER DONATIONS FOR BURSARY SCHEME FOR LOW INCOME FAMILIES
Parents always contribute to their training – as we see much better results this way but support matters.
THANK YOU FOR YOUR SUPPORT. THIS WAS PLANNED PRE COVID-19 – BUT IS NOW EVEN MORE NEEDED