Research, References and Inspiration: A Selection

The I Matter Framework offers an integration of the best available research evidence on what helps children who are anxious and challenging and their families to thrive.   

The following are just a few of the many sources that have inspired the development of this resource.




Archer, C. (1997). First Steps in Parenting the Child who Hurts: Tiddlers and Toddlers. Jessica Kingsley.

Dawson, P. a. (2009). Smart but Scattered. Guilford Press.

Aldort, N. (2005). Raising Our Children: Raising Ourselves. Book Publishers Network.

Bandura, A (1971) Social Learning Theory

Bomber, L. M. (2007). Inside I'm Hurting: Practical strategies for supporting children with attachment difficulties in schools. Worth Publishing.

Bowlby, J. (1998). A Secure Base: Clinical Applications of Attachment Theory. Routledge.

Bowlby, J. (1971). Attachment, Separation and Loss: Volume 1-3. Penguin.

Brazleton, T. B. (2000). The Irreducible Needs of Children. Perseus Publishing.

Cairns, K. (2002). Attachment, Trauma and Resilience. BAAF.

De Marsico, B (2010)  The Myth of Unhappiness. The Collected Works of Bruce di Marsico.   Dialogues in Self Discovery

Darwin, C. (1872). The Expression of the Emotions in Man and Animals. John Murray.

Faber, A. a. (1995). How to talk so kids can learn. Fireside.

Fertel M (2004)  Marriage Fitness   Edwin Morris and Company

Forbers, H. a. (2006). Beyond Consequences, Logic and Control: A love based approach to helping children with severe behaviours. Beyond Consequences Institute.

Freeman, W. (1999). How brains make up their minds. Orion Publishing.

Geddes, H. (2006). Attachment in the Classroom: The Links between children's early experience, emotional well-being and performance in school. Worth Publishing.

George, E. I. (1990). Problem to Solution: Brief Therapy with Indviduals and Families. BT Press.

Gerhardt, S. (2010). The Selfish Society: How we all forgot to love one another and made money instead. Simon and Schuster.

Gerhardt, S. (2008). Why Love Matters: how affection shapes a baby's brain. Routledge..

Gilbert, P. (2010). The Compassionate Mind.  Harbinger Publications

Glasser, H and Easley, MA (2007)    Transforming the Difficult Child:  The Nurtured Heart Approach

Ginott, H. (2003). Between Parent and Child. Three Rivers Press.

Golding, K. and Hughes, D (2012) Creating Loving Attachments  Jessica Kingsley Publishers

Greene, R. (2005). The Explosive Child. First Harper...

Goddard, S. (2002). Reflexes Learning and Behaviour. Fern Ridge Press.

Greenspan, S. a. (2006). Engaging Autism: Using the Floortime Approach to Help Children Relate, Communicate and Think. Da Capo Press.

Gulden, H. a. (2003). And You are Still You: Developing and Maintaining a Stable Sense of Self. Scottish Adoption Association.

Gutstein, S. (2000). Autism, Aspergers: Solving the Relationship Puzzle. Future Horizons.

Gutstein, S. (2007). The Relationship Development Intervention and Program and Intervention. Connections Center Publishing.

Hari, J (2018)  Lost Connections, Why You;re Depressed and How to Find Hope   Bloomsbury

Hirshberg, C. a. (1995). Remarkable Recovery. Headline Books.

Hughes, D. (2006). Building the Bonds of Attachment: Awakening Love in Deeply Troubled Children. Jason Aronson.

Hughes, D. (2007). Attachment Focussed Family Therapy. Norton.

Hughes, D and Baylin, J (2012) Brain-Based Parenting: The neuroscience of caregiving for Health Attachment.  Norton.

Jeffers, S. (1987). Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway. Random House.

Jernberg, A. a. (2001). Theraplay: Helping Parents and Children Build Better Relationships Through Attachment Based PLay. Jossey Bass.

Lendrum, S. a. (1992). Gift of Tears. Routledge.

Neufeld, G. a. (2006). Hold On To Your Kids: Why parents need to matter more than peers. Ballantine Books.

Perry, A. (2009). Teenagers and Attachment. Worth Publishing.

Paul, M. (1990). Inner Bonding: Becoming a loving adult to your inner child. Harper One.

Perry, B. (2008). The boy who was raised as a dog. Basic Books.

Pincus, D. (2011). The Calm Parent. Legacy Publishing .

Porges, S. (2011). The Polyvagal Theory: Neurophysiological Foundations of Emotions, Attachment, Communication and Self-Regulation. Norton and Company

Post, B. (2009). The Great Behaviour Breakdown. Post Institute.

Ratey, J. (2001). A users guide to the brain. Abacus.

Ratey, J. a. (2010). Spark! How Exercise Will Improve The Performance of Your Brain. Quercus.

Rothschild, B. (2000). The Body Remembers: The psychophysiology of Trauma and Trauma Treatment. Norton and Company.

Rothschild, B. (2010). 8 keys to safe trauma recovery: take charge strategies to empower your healing. Norton.

Schore, A. (1994). Affect Regulation and the Origin of the Self: The neurobiology of emotional development. Lawrence Earlbaum Associates.

Seligman, M. (1990). Learned Optimism. Simon and Schuster.

Selye, H. (1956). The Stress of Life. McGraw Hill.

Siegel, D. a. (2004). Parenting from the Inside Out: How a deeper self-understanding can help you raise children who thrive. Tarcher/Penguin.

Sharma, A and Cockerill, H  (1973) Mary Sheridans  From Birth to Five: Children's Developmental Progress  Routledge

Sunderland, M. (2006). What every parent needs to know. Dorling Kindersley..

Solomon, J. a. (1999). Attachment Disorganisation. Guildford Press.

Sonders, S. (2003). Giggle Time: Establishing the Social Connection. Jessica Kingsley.

Sroufe, A. (1995). Emotional Development: The organisation of Emotional Life in the Early Years. Cambridge University Press.

Stern, D. (1977). The First Relationship. Harvard University Press.

Tajfel, H. (1974). "Social identity and intergroup behavior". Social Science Information13(2): 65–93. 

Williams, D. (2006). The Jumbled Jigsaw: An insiders approach to the treatment of autistic spectrum fruit salads. Jessica Kingsely.

Winnicott, D. (1990). The Maturational Process and the Facilitating Environment. Maresfield Library.

Von der Kolk, B (2015)  The Body Keeps the Score  Penguin


In 1995 I drew my reading together into a guide for practice.   It was revised again in 2005.

This was the roots of what became the I Matter Framework, so I am completing a 2020 revision to be available with the i Matter Framework book



Understanding Interpersonal Trauma in Children: Why We Need a Developmentally Appropriate Trauma Diagnosis
 –  D’Andrea, Ford, Stolbach, Spinazzola & van der Kolk, 2012


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