Do you want to feel prepared? Or..
Are you worried about relationships with one or more children or adults?
YOU CAN EQUIP YOURSELF , OR START TURNING THINGS AROUND
WITH AN I MATTER RELATIONSHIP HEALTH APPROACH
Do you want to be well-prepared for an important role with children, adults and families?
Or, are you trying to find the way forward to help a child you are worried about at home or in work roles?
Adults and young people and parents and carers who have progressed an I Matter Learning Journey, say that the understanding they have gained and they tools they have learned have transformed their confidence in home and work roles - especially when there are challenges.
THE NEXT I MATTER RELATIONSHIP HEALTH FITNESS
LEVEL 1 CORE PROGRAMME STARTS SHORTLY
The First Workshop Starts Tuesday 28th February
There are some registration steps and some preparation content to complete before the first workshop - please allow 2 weeks
COMPLETE REGISTRATION OF INTEREST STEP
This programme is for professional or personal roles where there is intent to start on strong foundations, or learn how to move relationships to a happier-healthier place.
One adult - Two in the same family - Three professionals in the same setting
Level 1 is for personal-professional development only.
Any resources are licensed to you for your own use only and are not for copying or distributing.
More information below
Helping Your Child or Others with an I Matter Relationship Health Approach
Wellbeing in adult-child and adult-adult relationships based on Relationship Health concerns vital long term issues!
When relationship health is present, we know it. It feels good
We can be helpful
When it is not present, we also know it. It doesn't feel good
Our ability to help people that matter to us decreases.
Relationship health and ill-health impacts every single aspect of life.
However we rarely if ever get any training in the skills involved.
The truth is there is a lot involved.
Thankfully, it's never too late to make a difference.
However good preparation can really help avoid common challenges
And good foundations can help turn challenging situations around.
The I Matter Learning Journey aims to equip you with solid foundations: We work in phases:
+ Engage with I Matter (First Course and Fundamentals)
+ Learn I Matter: Learn the Framework (Level 1)
+ Living I Matter: Deepen and Extend (Level 2-3)
+ Offer I Matter: Helping Us Help Others (Level 4-6)
Each person's learning journey is unique with always more to learn
What is a Linked Parent-Carer? Professionals and parents-carers complete the same I Matter study programme. Wherever possible we like parents-carers and young people to access the programme with a recommendation from an I Matter link practitioner in a community hub and member school. We train professionals to support access to the programme in their own communities. If you are a parent-carer not in a hub area, please speak to professionals in your area and encourage them to take a look
So... this training and skills building is for you if you would like:
- less confusion and more clarity about how to proactively help yourself, your children and other adults
- confidence to work well with others using robust ideas with a strong evidence base
- confidence to know clearly what the priorities are and how to track progress over time
- confidence that YOU have a really key role to play in your work or home setting
....so that key relationships can feel easier and so that you, and others in your home and community, can thrive whatever the challenges happen to be
UNDERSTANDING I MATTER AND RELATIONSHIP HEALTH PRACTICE CAN
HELP PREPARE YOU FOR A PERSONAL OR PROFESSIONAL ROLE
IN ORDER TO PREVENT DIFFICULTIES AND SPOT THINGS EARLY
UNDERSTANDING I MATTER AND RELATIONSHIP HEALTH PRACTICE CAN ALSO HELP YOU STRENGTHEN RELATIONSHIPS AT HOME OR WORK
AND HELP YOU UNDERSTAND HOW TO HELP RECOVER THEIR HEALTH
You have the power to make a difference in your home or work setting by developing your understanding and skills!
If you are concerned about what is happening in your home with one or more children or adults who are struggling.
If you know of a child or adult finding relationships difficult
Or demonstrating challenging behaviour
Or struggling with mental health challenges
Your insight and understanding matters
In a Relationship Health Approach to helping children or other adults we work using the power of your own role
We start with you!
You learn the I Matter Framework
You start to read what is happening more accurately
You start to figure out your own next key steps
We encourage you to stick with your own learning process long enough to bring about results
More About the I Matter Learning Journey
The I Matter Learning Journey is an online programme and learning community which helps adults and young people to understand all relationships but especially the difficult ones and take steps to bring about positive change through their own role.
Typically, these difficult relationships manifest as:
- Challenging behaviour including angry, defiance and unco-operative patterns
- Mental health issues such as anxiety, depression and self-harm
- Unhelpful stuck patterns in relationships whether adult-child, adult-adult or self-self e.g difficult patterns observed in young children that are still not addressed years later
Whatever your role, it can be incredibly challenging to know how to best behave in some relationships including how to support some young people or adults and how to have a healthy and supportive relationship with them. Some children or adults with challenges have formally diagnosed conditions but many do not. It can nonetheless be difficult to understand why quite so many children are struggling these days.
For example, at home, as a parent or carer or partner or young person, it can also be extremely challenging to get drawn into escalated behaviour yourself, or see a child or adult struggling with their emotions and lashing out or withdrawing, whilst you are feeling ill-equipped to support them and are feeling so isolated and misunderstood yourself. Of course, you really want to help your child but you may feel you have been asking for help for so long. You do worry your efforts are sometimes making things worse, but you know you can’t do this on your own. It’s just you didn’t know parenting was going to be so difficult and you often simply do not know how best to respond.
Or, in school or in community roles, it can be shocking to be drawn into incidents with children and young people who seem out of control and potentially a risk not just to themselves but also to others in your care, whilst feeling your training didn’t prepare you for the situations you are in. Being faced with disengaged or angry, escalated parents-carers who are sometimes blaming you can at times be even more difficult than the work with young people. It can be very discouraging to see situations around you getting worse. But where should you start?
So a common experience can be one of feeling confused and overwhelmed with a sense that you are failing to move forward on things that matter a lot or failing to help others who are clearly needing help.
The main intended outcome of the I Matter Learning Journey is to give you a clear roadmap to improved relationship health with children and young people or adults both typical and more complex, through helping you focus on the foundations of relationship health. The programme, developed by Dr Cathy Betoin, a highly experienced clinical psychologist, teacher and parent herself. draws together decades of research evidence on what helps children and adults to thrive into a practical easy to understand set of ideas. These help you strengthen your understanding of the links between stress and wellbeing, child development, brain development and the adult role including the power of beliefs and attitudes.
An understanding of the I Matter Framework can then support you in:
· Strengthening of relationships with a young person/s when there are mild-moderate challenges
· Recovery of relationship health with young people when there are escalated or complex challenges
· Preparation for relationship health in a role in parenting or caring for children
· Continuing Professional Development helping you take forward the overlooked issue of relationship health in your roles so you can better support the young people in your care and work more effectively with parents
All I Matter training in the UK is overseen by Cathy Betoin. We are currently focussed on building a network of practitioners. No other training or accreditation in the I Matter Framework is approved or recognised by I Matter Training Ltd.
How exactly does the I Matter Programme work?
- We work with community hubs and member schools as our goal is to create a well-informed community of adult professionals and parents around children and young people who are struggling. We start with GP’s and school leadership who want to work together to help parents and young people in their own locality
- Then, whether you are a senior leader or a professional or a parent, you’ll study the I Matter Framework through video lessons designed to help you better understand and then implement positive changes to your relationships with young people in your care.
- You will also have the option to join small group explorations with others in similar contexts to yours, as well as opportunities for personalised consultations, subject to the availability of practitioners, to help you address specific issues
- Where possible, we aim to connect you to a local community hub that is joining up professionals in health and education and community roles.
- The I Matter Programme does not offer any quick fixes. Putting I Matter principles into practice is a life-long learning process with every individual journey unique. What you should remember is that if you ever have the feeling that ‘it is not working’ then there is simply more for you to still learn. This is why we refer to the theory to practice stage as an I Matter Challenge.
- An I Matter Learning Journey is not about changing others. It is about creating the conditions that support relationship health for children and for yourself and others in work and home roles. In this process, you are a key agent in bringing about the changes you want to see.
To join I Matter Programme you need to be:
- Committed to working with others in your own community and able to access local support
- Willing to commit to study, including online study (one step at a time)
- Motivated to learn more about yourself and your own relationships and ready to make some personal changes to help children and other adults in your settings
- Available to access and engage with I Matter discussion groups
- Interested in developing the skills that support healthier and happier relationships
The initial steps to join the I Matter Learning Journey and progress an I Matter Challenge include
- Completion of an initial short online expression of interest form and initial discussion
- Completion of an in-depth online assessment questionnaire and consult on priority goals
- Registration for an online account for Preparation and Level 1
- Participation in small group online discussion of I Matter Principles and theory to practice:
- Encouragement to keep working on your own I Matter Challenge and skills.
Step by Step: The programme encourages you to aim for one happier and healthier relationship at a time and can provide a positive complement to other learning. We love to celebrate results!
After Level 1 training, some people stop or pause, others progress to further learning with varied levels of support including options for personalised small group and 1:1 coaching with our growing network of I Matter Informed and Certified practitioners.
We encourage you to stay involved so as to have the benefits of staying checked in to the I Matter Framework and Relationship Health conversations and ideas that will help you to continue finding the way forward. We would love you to join us!
Overview of Steps of the I Matter Learning Journey
The I Matter Learning Journey can support professional development and personal development.
The core online Level 1 programme involves a registration step and a commitment to online study.
From time to time we offer the First Course as a taster in partnership with member organisations and certified practitioners
Level 2-3 is by application
Discover I Matter
Explore Relationship Health
Taught First Steps
Discussion Led by Local Leads.
Learn the I Matter Framework
Prepare Relationship Health
CORE LEVEL 1 FITNESS
Feedback about I Matter Training
Over the last 10 years, people in a wide variety of situations have taken part in our CPD accredited I Matter training programme. Here is the sort of thing they say...
- “I Matter Training completely changed the way I feel about my role at work
- “I Matter Training gave me the confidence that I can help my child and have a better relationship with him. Even my relationship with my partner has improved!
- “I Matter Training gave me tools that I wish I had been given so many years previously
- "The I Matter Framework and Training has been adopted by our Integrated Care Community to support our local strategy for work with children and families"
Now we are moving into a new phase of building a bigger team and sharing thinking more widely.. so if you are in our local area, and have a child with some challenges, and are determined and want help to turn things around then we might be able to help...
I Matter Training
“The Kendal Integrated Care Community has adopted the I Matter Framework as a foundation for our thinking about how to work together in our community to help those who are struggling. Professionals and non-professionals are learning together. It feels good.”
Dr Amy Lee
GP Safeguarding Lead Kendal Integrated Care Community
I Matter Training
“The I Matter approach of considering the adults needs alongside those of the children is such a useful way to look at things and has turned the dynamics on its head for me. I have realised my stress levels are having a huge impact on all of us as a family and learning to change this is starting to make a difference.”
of challenging teenager
I Matter Training
“EVERY teacher and parent would benefit from this programme. Parent carers are a group of people I would like to get this to. This would be a fantastic opportunity to bring a very isolated group of people together to improve the situation they are in. ”
Carer support professional
Children and adults of all ages
I Matter Training
“I am a HLTA but also a parent and foster carer. I work with primary aged children, have 3 teenagers, and foster toddlers! This programme has been so valuable for each and every relationship I encounter on a daily basis. ”
Higher Level Teaching Assistant and Foster Carer
Trained for work and home purposes
I Matter Training
“This programme has had a big impact on my own well-being which has meant that I have been more able to cope better with the expected and unexpected aspects of life in a calmer rational manner!! ”
Key Stage 4 Leader and Parent
I Matter Training
“The registration questionnaire really got me thinking. I realised how isolated I had let myself become and that this was not helping me or my child. I took action the next day and phoned a friend. I also made another follow-up appointment to speak with my GP. ”
I Matter Training
“This training has been so much more than I expected it to be. I have learned so many things that have changed my understanding of myself and of my child. I have worked with many services before this but this has really made the difference. Now I know why I Matter ”
Parent of complex child
What do you get in the I Matter First Course
The I Matter First Course offers a very introductory level of discussion.
It includes some background discussion, a Getting Started workshop
and a 14 day Essentials of Attachment email course.
This content is also included in the I Matter Level 1 programme.
What You Get in the Level 1 Programme
Over the course of the initial 12 weeks, you’ll learn about the I Matter Framework, with taught videos, reflective questions, and activities to try out. Everything is self-paced, so you can progress as works for you. The course includes:
What you will learn:
The Level 1 training can sometimes be progressed as a self-paced online programme for general education purposes only for both professional CPD and for parents-carers
However we strongly recommend participation in additional study support options, notably participation in supported small group learning for anyone wanting to gain a deeper understanding of the concepts.
PLEASE NOTE: If there is any significant escalation it is vital to access informed personalised support in your own community and this course is not suitable without local certified support.
The initial supported training is offered in two phases: In the first four weeks you will be introduced to the I Matter Framework Fundamentals at a fast pace. In the second part you will work through the Level 1 course reflecting on observations in your own situation.
Registration and Preparation
Week 1 Getting Started Workshop
Week 2-7: Level 1 study programme
Option for Gateway Knowledge Assessment
Level 2-3 and Level 4-6 training by application. Click here for more information
Module 1 and Module 2 are completed prior to the first LIVE workshop
Module 1: Registration and Preparation
The need for Relationship health Practice
in home, education, health and community
Module 2: Getting Started
Introducing the I Matter Model
Organising what you already know a lot about
LIVE GETTING STARTED WORKSHOP
Module 3: Essential Ideas
How do we make sense of everyday observations?
Your role in high challenge situations
Module 4: Attachment Relationships
What exactly is meant by attachment?
What does it look like across the developmental process?
Module 5: Alarm and the Brain
What exactly is happening in everyday challenging incidents?
Discover a simple model for dynamic relationship process
Module 6: How Children start Thinking
How do everyday moments shape brain development?
Why is the adult role so key?
Module 7: The Power of our Beliefs and attitudes
Are experiences just happening to us?
How do we take more control of outcomes?
Module 8: Communication
How does communication impact outcomes?
What are the vital skills?
After Level 1 Training:
After Level 1 Training, if you have taken part in additional study support options at Level 1 you can apply to join the Level 2-3 membership community. You will need to have a specific focus. There will be different pathway options based on your roles.
Study support aims to give you support in putting learning into practice so as to progress the happier and healthier relationships that you want.
Level 4-6 training for supporting others by application. Click here for more information
DISCOVER I MATTER
LEVEL 1: LEARN I MATTER
RELATIONSHIP HEALTH FITNESS
The next programmes start shortly
You will need to complete an expression of interest first
Non-professionals must have the support of a certified link professional
SOLID FOUNDATIONS FOR
AT WORK AND AT HOME
I MATTER FRAMEWORK
GET STARTED WORKSHOP
8 POWERFUL MODULES
SELF ASSESSMENT TOOLS
3 x MONTHS
NUGGETS & GEMS
STUDY SUPPORT OPTIONS
STUDY SUPPORT OPTIONS
FOR SELF-PACED STUDY
Dr Cathy Betoin is a practising clinical psychologist, an experienced teacher and a parent.
The I Matter Framework emerged gradually over more than 20 years in clinical practice in response to a sense that something important was missing in our approach to helping children and families. Then it became clear the issues involved all relationships.
The I Matter Learning Journey is designed as a training programme that can help professionals and non-professionals develop a shared language across home, school and community. The language of the I Matter Framework helps to bring a huge well-evidenced research literature together into a practical cohesive approach to inform some urgently needed shifts in our decision making and approach.
Training in the I Matter Framework helps adults and young people work together to help themselves and others in their own homes. schools and communities. Here are some of the schools and organisations that have been working with us to build capacity to help parents
Our Mission is Healthier and Happier Homes, Schools, and Communities: One Important Relationship at a Time
Frequently Asked Questions
Who exactly is this course for?
I Matter Relationship Health Training is suitable for professionals or for non-professionals who are ready and open to learn. The training can be very informative in relation to adult-child and adult-adult relationships. The pathway for parents is via community hubs and member schools.
The intention of the I Matter Framework is to help you understand more about what is happening in everyday challenging situations.
Though the ideas can look familiar and fairly simple putting the principles into practice takes a lot of practice, particularly if challenges have been present for a while. The training covers a lot of issues some of which can be experienced as sensitive and so I Matter can offer a challenging learning experience for some.
If there are current challenges, it is therefore important to think through your local support options.
This course is not intended to help you address challenging situations without other support in place.
What is the distinction between the First Course and the I Matter Learning Journey?
There is an important distinction between the First Course and the I Matter Learning Journey.
The First Course is, as it sounds a very basic and introductory level of discussion of the ideas. It is offered via member organisations either by recommendation or supported by an inhouse practitioner.
Those who are interested in more indepth study and a longer more sustained commitment join the I Matter Learning Journey to learn new ideas and to find a community of support with the challenges of putting the ideas into practice in their own settings.
What can I do with my training?
The Level 1 training is an awareness level course and is intended to support your personal understanding or for CPD only. You are not licensed to use the resources in a professional role with level 1 training only. If you want to use the I Matter Resources in your practice with children or adults then you can apply to join further training. Level 2-3 involves work with children in direct roles and level 4 includes work with parents and professionals who are progressing an I Matter Learning Journey
What is the difference between the self-paced and supported course?
As it sounds, the supported course includes a higher level of personalised consultations.
At present this option is only offered in the Kendal area where we work within a network of I Matter informed professionals.
How can I take part in further training?
To take part in further training requires an application.
We offer further training to professionals with priority given to community hubs to support the building of a shared local language.
We offer further training to parents-carers via I Matter approved professionals or trainees.