I Matter Core Concepts

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I Matter Core Concepts 

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I Matter Training shares some key objectives with wide range of therapeutic modalities.   Our key goal is support for, or restoration of, adult-child relationship health and deeper and more secure attachments.   These have been clearly evidenced as key to best outcomes for children as regards mental health, educational outcomes, physical health outcomes and offending and crime statistics.

However when difficulties have become escalated or entrenched what we observe clinically is that confusion and disorientation in the adults is a key element of the difficulties being experienced by the child.

Our observation is that the top clinical priority that is too often overlooked by professional practices is that the adult with primary caring responsibilties is helped to stabilise and find their own self-confidence - so that they can play a confident and effective role with the child.

When professionals jump into working with children leaving parents and carers as the taxi drivers to the services something significant is off track.

So I Matter Training is designed to help parents-carers who have often experienced a lot of trauma themselves in the process of caring for a child with additional needs, to gain important insights and confidence through an engaging and non-judgemental approach.


I Matter Training assists professionals in gaining insight into why it can seem that children and sometimes parents are not able to take in advice that has been given.  I Matter Training thus invites professionals to think about the key roles that they play not just for children but also for adults.

The learning process uses practitioner guidance to create safe and non-judgemental exploration of subjects that have felt difficult to discuss.    Caring reflective interactions seek to foster shared understanding and insight.  The reflective activities build attunement and understanding of family relationships  and the structure seeks to replicate healthy early relationship experiences that are proven to lead to more secure attachments - across the age span and within the frame of the attachment village. 

The Pillars of the I Matter Framework - ie the ideas set out through the Integrated I Matter Framework can be explored through a wide variety of learning medium via 1:1 and small group interactions that can be gently challenging but are also personal, practical and fun – thus offering a natural way for everyone to experience the healing power of being and reflecting together.


I Matter Practice always focusses on some essential qualities found in all healthy relationships

  • Structure: The adult, the leader in the relationship, creates organization and predictability which communicates safety
  • Nurture: The adult provides caring that can calm and soothe in a manner that supports feeling good physically and emotionally
  • Engagement: The adult is present in a manner that helps the child or other adult experiences being seen, heard, felt, and accepted
  • Challenge: The adult supports the child or adult in the acquisition and mastery of new skills, enhancing the sense of competence and confidence
  • Relationship Repair: The adult supports the process of ensuring that moments of relationship disruption get thought through and repaired
  • Community:  The adult does not care for the child or other adults in isolation - community is vital to the longer term learning process.


With the support of an I Matter Informed Community, parents and professionals have opportunities to think through important everyday interactions learning how to use these everyday experiences to establish felt safety, social engagement, improved arousal regulation, and supports the development of positive self-esteem for both the child and the parent.

Training in I Matter is appropriate for anyone who is a direct service provider working with children and/or families. The training information is essential for social workers, psychologists, teachers, speech-language pathologists, occupational therapists, physical therapists and mental health professionals. For more information on our various trainings, click here.