Strengthen your understanding and skills
for home, work and community roles
Build yourself some solid I Matter foundations in just 90 days.
Learn to make sense of what is happening in your important relationships and develop more confidence about what might help next.
Relationship Health Foundations
Learn the I Matter Framework and the Five Stages of Development of Skills for relationship health
When life or relationships become difficult, it can be hard to understand what is happening, what to focus on and what may help.
I Matter Relationship Health Foundations brings together Get Started and I Matter Fundamentals in one supported learning journey. It offers a developmental framework for understanding how to strengthen personal resilence, adult–adult and adult–child relationships,
This includes recognising what happens to our capacities under pressure, and identifying practical next steps within our own roles and settings. The foundation course is about building personal resilience.
My name is Dr Cathy Betoin.
Clinical psychologist, experienced teacher and parent.
The aim of learning I Matter is not to make difficult circumstances disappear or enable us to remain calm whatever happens. It is to help us notice our own patterns sooner, understand ourselves and others more clearly, and recover enough capacity to respond with greater choice.
What might become possible?
What would it be like to:
understand why relationships become harder under pressure;
recognise when you or someone else is losing access to important capacities;
feel clearer about what is—and is not—your responsibility;
steady yourself sufficiently to think about what matters next;
respond more constructively in adult–adult and adult–child relationships;
strengthen the conditions for connection, contribution and repair?
Relationship Health Foundations will not give you control over other people or guarantee change in every relationship. It can give you a clearer map for understanding everyday situations and deciding what you can do next.
Psychological preparedness and
Relationship Health Resilence
Psychological preparedness involves understanding how pressure can affect our bodies, thinking and relationships—and developing ways to notice, respond and seek support when our capacities become stretched.
Relationship resilience does not mean being unaffected by difficult experiences. It includes the capacity to adapt, maintain appropriate boundaries, draw on support and find routes back to reflection, connection and constructive action.
When relationships feel difficult and you’re unsure how best to help—at home, at work or in your community
—I Matter gives you a map and the foundations to find a way forward.
The Foundations Course is for:
+ Independent Professionals
+ Independent Parents-Carers
+ Professionals and Parents via Organisation members of Let's Talk RH
WHAT WILL YOU LEARN?
THE I MATTER MODEL AND THE I MATTER FRAMEWORK AND THE FIVE STAGES
👉 New to I Matter? Start with an introduction
GET STARTED
WITH I MATTER
Establish your starting point and identify your current priorities.
ESSENTIAL I MATTER IDEAS
Explore key foundational principles of relationship health.
ATTACHMENT, ALARM & BRAIN
Understand what happens when our threat systems become activated.
HOW CHILDREN START THINKING
Explore the Five Stages and why capacities vary across people and situations.
THE POWER OF OUR ATTITUDES
Notice how expectations, assumptions and meanings affect relationships.
Connecting, Contributing and Learning to Repair
Consider practical ways of responding when relationships become difficult.
EXPLORE THE IDEAS
Free Introduction
Free
Discover what relationship health means, why it matters and how the I Matter approach may be relevant to your work.
Overview of the I Matter Journey
About one hour, plus reflection
30 days’ access
BUILD YOUR FOUNDATIONS
Relationship Health Foundations
Level 1 Get Started + Level 2 Fundamentals
£45 for three months
Equivalent to £15 per month.
Renews every three months until cancelled.
Explore the I Matter Model and I Matter Framework and deepen your understanding of stress, development, behaviour and relationships.
About six hours of content, plus reflection
Self-guided online learning
No live study support or individual advice is included. Printed resources cost extra.
Choose Your Pathway →About this low-cost learning trial
Thanks to Kendal-based support and donations through Relationship Health Matters CIC, self-guided Foundations learning is being made available through a low-cost subscription. The trial will be reviewed on 31 March 2027.
You are welcome to submit questions and feedback to inform resource development. Individual replies are not included.
WHY TAKE THIS COURSE?
This course is for you if:
+ You are feeling overwhelmed and don't know what to focus on
+ You want a way of understanding what is happening
+ You want to strengthen yourself for personal or professional roles
+ You love learning and deepening your understanding and skills
+ You want to prepare yourself in the face of some challenging times
+ You want to feel more able to help your children or family
+ You want to see more relationship health in the world
THE LEARNING MAY HELP YOU
feel less confused about what to focus on;
recognise your own patterns under pressure;
recover more effectively following setbacks;
understand when additional support may be needed;
feel clearer about how to support others without taking over;
make more informed choices about personal and professional roles;
contribute to healthier relationships in the settings that matter to you
.
What people say
“The content of this course is fantastic — it has really got me thinking.”
“Everyone would benefit from this course — professionals, parents, young people.”
“I am looking forward to helping others access this training in my community.”
The same relationship health foundations underpin every pathway. Choose where you want to apply your learning.
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