Is challenging behaviour a mental health issue?

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Is challenging behaviour a mental health issue?   Of course it often is! 

As a psychologist one of the issues that has concerns me most is that people too often make a bold distinction between young people who present with oppositional and challenging behaviour and young people who present with issues such as eating disorders, depression, anxiety and self-harm.    

Challenging behaviour and anxiety and depression as examples can look very different.  At first regard...

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Yay! The I Matter Project is now a Social Enterprise!

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Cathy Betoin Training Ltd is a limited company, registration number 07570100, that I set up to administer the work of the I Matter Project.  

In November 2014  Cathy Betoin Training Ltd formally and legally became a social enterprise.  As someone who has trained within the public sector and been deeply committed to the public sector values this was a transition that was dear to my heart.  

A Social Enterprise is defined according to 3 criteria:

i) There is a social mission -...

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Why I Matter Training? #4 Adult and child well-being are linked

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The fourth reason I decided to develop this training was that as I studied all the research, it became very very clear that there were so many different approaches or models but to me, many of them were missing a key and fundamental issue, or adding it as an afterthought.  

How many can you list yourself? Here are a few: Behavioural approaches, Cognitive-Behavioural approaches, Play therapy, Family Therapies, Psycho-dynamic or Person-centred counselling, Solution-Focussed approches,...

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Why I Matter Training? #5 Understanding improves outcomes

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So the fifth reason I became interested in creating this training is that I became convinced that to make a difference to the numbers of children who were struggling, the answer was not just more therapists and more therapy.  Therapists and therapy tend to work with an approach that is inevitably based on an individualised approach.  That is great!  

Yet we have so many children who are struggling and the work involved to help put a complex child back on track can often be so...

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Why I Matter Training? #6 There is rarely a quick fix

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The sixth reason I decided to develop I Matter Training is that when it comes to living with or caring for children with complex needs, there is rarely a quick fix.  Sorry!

When we are faced with really challenging situations - we have all been in the situation of just wanting someone or something to come and sort things out and make things better - More than that we often want something or someone to come and sort the child or other person out - right now!   Unfortunately, this can...

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What is I Matter Training? Foundation 1: Personal Responsibility and Willingness to Grow

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So what is I Matter Training?    It is a psycho-educational project intended to provide you with a map that will support you in becoming more of an expert on the mental health or behaviour challenges you or your child are experiencing.   I Matter training brings together complex ideas into a useable practical form so that you can decide which are important and relevant to you right now.

I Matter is not a therapy - but if you use it to guide your choices and decision making it...

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What is I Matter Training? Foundation 2: Partnerships matter

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So what is I Matter Training?    I Matter Training is intended to provide you with a way of bringing a lot of complex ideas together into a useable and practical whole so that you can be more confident about how to help yourself and your complex child.  

I Matter is built on 3 core foundations.   Foundation 1 is a reminder that if you want to see positive change - you have to be willing to take some personal responsibility and you have to be willing to grow and change...

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What is I Matter Training: Foundation 3: Child Development Matters

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I Matter Training aims to bring lots of complex ideas into a practical useable whole for those who live or work with complex children.   One critically important idea that gets glossed over repeatedly in our educational and mental health practices is the issue of child development.   

Children develop.  The brain develops.   Child brain development is impacted massively by experience as well as by genetics.   However child development can be a very trusted guide...

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Why I Matter Training? #7 I am a hopeless idealist - are you?

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I have to admit it - one of the reasons that I have kept going with this project is that in the face of lots of reasons to stop, I am one of those people who still wants to believe that we could/can as a community more effectively address what is happening for children in our community if we worked together in our homes and schools to make a difference.    

One of the things that I have loved about this project is that I get to meet a lot of remarkable people who also hold onto...

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Why I love my logo!

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I really love my logo!   It was designed for me by Ronnie Mullin at Mullin Design in Kendal, UK and it just sums up perfectly what I Matter is all about.    I get to use my logo lots on this site, or on letters and reports and each time I use it it feels good!

The logo shows adults and children with steps as in the way of ladders and this in essence is what I believe has to be the starting point in any work with complex children.   Both adults and children are learning....

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