Our Approach


Have you ever seen the following common pathway for struggling children and their families?  A parent came in about a child who was becoming very challenging at home - there didn't seem to be much of an issues in school so the GP was suggested.  The GP said it wasn't really their thing so a referral was sent us to CAMHS.  However they said the child didn't meet their threshold.  The child was eventually seen by someone via another organisation but after 6 weeks it stopped.  The family kept shouting as things were getting worse.... they eventually got a diagnosis but there was nothing else - several years later parents resport that the child is still very anxious and the problems are even more challenging.  

Here are the pathways we want to support:  A parent comes in about child who was very challenging at home. School listened and understood.  They had some training and support available that seemed to fit the bill directly.  The school still  suggested the family talk to the GP to check things out but was able to get the family started immediately on some helpful training.  The GP knew about the training and talked things through with the family too. Now the family and childr understand more and there is a big change.  They are also working well with others to help their child.   They are glad they spoke up and clearly don't feel judged for asking.  They report that things are so much better now.

Our Mission is to give adults in local communtiies a shared language (based on a strong evidenced based theoretical framework) that supports clear decision making helping struggling children and families experience healthier adult-child relationships wtih better home relationships a priority.


Have you ever seen the following sad thing happening in the classroom:   when staff are working hard to meet what can feel like relentless demands,  the adults can lose sight of the child in the room - the child with challenges is one demand too many in an overstretched day.   The adult can come to dread the child and the child can dread the adult - the adult can lose sight of their own significance and of the power of relationships and the fundamentals of child development..

Have you ever seen the following sad thing happening in the clinic:   when staff are working hard to meet what can feel like relentless waiting list pressures caring adults can lose sight of the bigger picture around the patients presenting symptoms - the child or adult with challenges is one demand too many in an overstretched day that needs to be processed quickly in order to meet targets.   The once caring adult no longer wants to hear about the bigger picture as it is too much to think about and in this process the presenting child or adullt feels unheard and simply reports more symptoms.   What has been lost sight of is the significance and the power of relationships in the healing and recovery process ..

Our approach to helping improve physical health, mental health, educational and offending outcomes for stressd children and adults involves starting with adults needs for supportive listening and for time to step back and think about a bigger picture.  We offer semistructred support with the thinking process so that the presnting child's and presenting adults's real developmental needs can be better understaood by caring adults.

I Matter Training offers professionals a carefully structured  opportunity to revisit the foundations of social emotnonal development in a manner that encourages everyone to step back and observe what is happening with a curious but newly informed brain aware, relationship aware and stress and trauma aware eye.

When provided with space to think and some clear tools the key issues that need attention usually become very clear - and changes can start to happen quite naturally.


Is your community feeling like a community?

Do people care for one another and look out for one another?

Do professionals and leaders have a sense of the specific community that they are working to support and do they feel part of a team that is holding that community in mind? 

Do they feel connected to other communities where there are overlapping interests and needs?   

These details are key to health and wellbeing.   Health is not a solo activitiy.

When an I Matter Study Support process is facilitated in a community setting then conversations can start to happen quite naturally in a range of unexpected places.   People start to feel that they matter and that they are understood by others - and this makes all the difference.

Training in the I Matter Framework offers professionals a journey that pieces well-evidenced familiar ideas into a clear practice foundation

We want to see the importance of the adult-child relationship supported much more effectively in all professional practices

We want to build safer happier communities - one healthier relationship at a time.  

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It's quite simple really - we offer resources and encourage people to take time to think and learn about what is happening around them..

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We carefully gather evidence of the impact of I Matter Training using a variety of formats and will be presenting more here very shortly.

Get Started: Learn why healthy adult-child relationships and healthy communities matter for mental health, positive behaviour and healthy child development at home and in school. Then.. Take Stock and Go for Results.


If I had understood these ideas earlier

I could have been a lot more effective

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