Cathy Betoin's I Matter Blog and Podcast

What is I Matter Parent-Child Coaching?

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Parent-Child Coaching is something that many parents do without thinking about it.  It involves guiding the child towards undersatnding and skills that you know will be useful and helpful to them in their lives.  

I Matter Parent-Child Coaching has many similiarites.  There are also 5 key differences:

i)  In comparison to everyday parent-child coaching I Matter Parent-Child Coaches start out with a much clearer map or guide to help you decide what to coach and...

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Jekyll and Hyde Behaviour?  5 Reasons you must use developmental thinking if you have a challenging child?

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Just because your child is 10 years old, does not mean that your child is functioning like a 10 year old

In my work I meet a lot of families of children who have developmental delays. Some of these developmental delays are VERY easy for an uninformed observer to miss and it is these more subtle delays that often lead to the greatest confusions for families and for teachers.   Developmental immaturity is one of the key reasons for that common experience of feeling that your child is like...

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Six Similarities Between Children Diagnosed with ASD, ADHD, ODD and Attachment Difficulties

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As a clinical psychologist, I get to meet with a lot of families who are feeling stressed and confused, wondering about their child's behaviour.

I get to hear a lot of questions that take the form:   
"Well has he got.... ASD or ADHD or OCD... or ODD?'

Sometimes when further investigations are pursued it turns out that the child in question might meet the criteria set out by one of these diagnostic labels.  Then families are usually hoping that someone is going to 'do something'...

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The First and Most Important Step in Addressing Child Mental Health Difficulties and Challenging Behaviour

The I Can Control and Calm Myself Checklist is a simple 14 item tool that we use to assess the starting points when a parent or professional is observing mental health concerns or challenging behaviour.  

if you are wanting to see improvements in your child's mental health and behaviour at home or at school then most of the rest of your efforts will come to very little unless you get this key step working well first. 

You are the adult and a key part of this role involves...

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How to handle the Meltdowns: an I Matter Approach

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Most parents dread the meltdowns - whether it is a toddler or a teen - but what if you had a better understanding of what was happening and why?   What if you knew that meltdowns could be used to help build a better relationship with your child?

First things first:  Let's be clear,  it is not just children and young people who have meltdowns.   Adults have them too.  Sometimes a lot.  

And if this is happening in your home or school setting this is absolutely the...

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5 reasons an understanding of Infant Brain Development is vital to pregnant parents

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Did you know that infant brain development is not only very important it can also be very, very interesting!  

If you are pregnant for the first time and are wondering what to do with while waiting for the birth, why not use your time wisely and learn about how your attachment relationship with your new born infant will influence the way that their brain actually develops?    Here are a five reasons that this will be time well-invested!

1.  Your baby's brain will...

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Why Does My Mum Behave that way?

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So you arrived home and your Mum met you at the door.  You felt she was grumpy, angry, impatient.   And you thought, 'here we go again'?

Have you seen this behaviour before?   Do you wonder why she behaves this way?  Do you wonder why she is always on at you and why it seems you can never do anything right?

What's the reason?   Is it your fault?   Is it because she is deliberately trying to make your life miserable?   Is it your someone else's fault?

We all...

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