Professionals and Determined Parents who support children and Families:
What Do We Need to Do to Improve Children's Mental Health and Wellbeing?
Learn about the overlooked but vital issue of
RELATIONSHIP HEALTH  and about the Five Steps Way Forward

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Hello, Fellow Professionals Who Support Children and Families and Determined Parents-Carers!   
(in Health, Education, Social Care, Policing, and Community Practice)

(Before I start, here's a little aside, I have been doing a lot of studying about online learning and communication processes, so please forgive me if the following comes across as a little salesy - I'm still learning and this may need toning down somehow but I think the structure does communicate what I want to say - so please bear with me!)


So do you want to know what to do to improve the mental health and wellbeing and other important outcomes for or one or more children in your classroom, or GP clinic or community?   

Do you feel you have been looking for answers and not getting anywhere fast|?


So, here's something exciting!   (I told you it might sound salesy!)

How would it be to feel

+ less helpless in the face of excessively long waiting lists
+ less discouragement in the face of endless forms to fill 
+ less frustration at fruitless waiting for services that don't deliver the results that matter
+ less discouraged while waiting around for others to take action


Why?

Because there is something that can make a big difference that I want to share with you.   


After many years of professional and personal puzzling, I started to suspect that something big was missing in our education and health practice with children, particularly for the vulnerable child, and when I realised what it was, I confess I was shocked!

Then in December 2020 I woke with an idea for this book and I decided to do a quick internet search - but to my astonishment I couldn't find any books titled with this enormously important issue.  Not one!  Yikes.  

Here's what I had realised:    Relationship Health IS the missing link in children's wellbeing.   Yikes again.


So, now there are three books.  Here is the title I decided to go for for the first book


Relationship Health: the Missing link in Children's Wellbeing.

Think about it - we all know about physical health and the steps we must take to support it and we are starting to understand about mental health and the steps needed to support that, 

However somehow we have missed Relationship Health as something which underpins them all 

It's astonishingly and almost embarrassingly simple, but there is a lot of confusion in children's mental health practice right now and I assure you that the concept of Relationship Health can turn things around not just in child mental health and wellbeing practice - but also in relation to other important outcomes such as education outcomes, adult mental health, physical health, and crime statistics.


Here's a brief outline of my story:

Before I understood the ideas which I have set out in this book, I often found myself very confused in my professional and parenting role.    I was considered to be an expert, but I wasn’t convinced by what I had learned through my training, as it had left me with too many unanswered questions

+ Why were waiting lists so long?
+ Why are so many children struggling?
+ Why were there so many diagnoses that all seemed to overlap?
+ What is missing in our practice - how do all the varied models fit together?
+ Why is what I have been taught not working for me in my own role as a parent?

Since understanding these ideas
+ I feel clearer about what I am trying to do in my work and home roles and about how to support my clients, wider team and community
+ I have a way of thinking about things that helps me everyday in my professional and personal roles
+ I am able to work with other professionals in my community with commitment to an approach that makes sense
+ I have language that I can use with my clients - adults and children  and colleagues - that makes sense to them too and is transparent and not opaque.
+ And most importantly, my own Relationships - at home and at work - are in a much healthier place – thankfully!  :))


+ So now, I feel really strongly that I want to share these ideas with other professionals so that together we can bring about some shifts in the way we think about child and family practice and help more families and their children more effectively.

 

READ THE BOOKS AND COME AWAY CLEARER ABOUT THE ISSUES
AND ABOUT THE STEPS NEEDED TO FIND A WAY FORWARD


Relationship Health:  The Missing Link in Children's Wellbeing.
and three valuable bonuses

For just £9.99


GET THE eBOOK HERE

 

DISCLAIMER:  Relationship Health isn't a cure all.   Instead it's an umbrella concept that offers a personal and professional collective road map.    Improving Relationship Health isn't necessarily easy, in fact the truth is that it can involve a considerable amount of commitment.  But something happens when you at least know where you are going.  Something happens when the Fog (the first of the Five Steps to Success which you will learn more about) starts to lift.  

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Here's a picture of the book title - in an early draft version.

 

Here's what's inside the first book

Relationship Health:  The Missing Link in Children's Wellbeing 

The Book has 110 pages
It is structured in the following five sections known as the Five Steps to Success

CONTENTS

Welcome
Introduction to a Five Steps Process : Helping Anxious and Challenging Children

Part 1:  Acknowledge the Fog:   Name your Not-Wants and Your Wants         
OR: Why are so many children struggling?

1.1: Children’s wellbeing:  Acknowledge the fog                                                   
1.2: Some statistics                                                                                                       
1.3: Is challenging behaviour a mental health issue?                                          
1.4: What’s wrong with this child?                                                                           
1.5: Professional orientation and the family between us                                   
1.6: Dreaming the future – Time 1                                                                        


Part 2:  Become Informed:  There’s a Lot to Learn                                               

OR: What does the research REALLY say?      

2.1: Biopsychosocial problem formulation: Why is my baby crying?               
2.2: Attachment theory - what’s that?                                                                     
2.3: Interpersonal stress regulation and trauma                                                  
2.4: Child social-emotional development                                                                 
2.5: Parenting styles and outcomes for children                                                    
2.6: Couples and communication: the role of awareness                                   
2.7: Restorative practice and parallel processes                                                    
2.8: A model for child & family practice:  The I Matter Framework                 
2.9: What is Relationship Health and why is it important?                                 
2.10: Dreaming the future – Time 2                                                                          


Part 3:  Take Care of You: Build Yourself a Team                                                   
OR: Applications of relationship health thinking

3.1: Relationship health at home                                                                               
3.2: Relationship health inside                                                                                  
3.3: Relationship health and mental health                                                            
3.4: Relationship health and physical health                                                           
3.5: Relationship health and education practice                                                    
3.6: Relationship health and crime: safer communities                                        
3.7: Relationship health and society                                                                          
3.8: Relationship health and environmental health                                               
3.9: Relationship health and spiritual health         

                                                 
Part 4:  Develop Routines:  Connect and Take Charge:                                    
OR: Practical steps to improved relationship health

4.1: Diagnosis of relationship health Issues                                                        
4.2: The fourth of the Five Steps to Success                                                       
4.3: Passive and active learning                                                                             
4.4: Agreeing bench marks                                                                                    
4.5: Why your self-awareness matters                                                                 
4.6: Learning to watch affectionately and listen                                                
4.7: Learning to communicate                                                                                
4.8: Accepting differences: We need to talk about boys                                 
4.9: Wholistic thinking and the community wheel                                          

Part 5: Fine Tuning of Therapeutic Care                                                              
OR: Implications of relationship health for policy and practice

5.1: Policy and practice of parenting-caring                                                       
5.2: Policy and practice of children's health                                                        
5.3: Policy and practice of children's education                                                            
5.4: Policy and practice of children's mental health                                         
5.5: Policy and practice of children's EHCP plans                                               
5.6: Policy and practice of adoption support                                                      
5.7: Policy and practice of Children Looked After                                             
5.8: Policy and practice of child protection                                                         
5.9: Policy and practice of a healthy society                                                       
5.10: Policy and practice of environmental care                                               
              

Part 6: Conclusions                                                                                                    
6.1: The relationship health process                                                                     
6.2: Relationship health needs: professional issues                                          
6.3: Relationship health needs: personal issues                                                
6.4: Relationship health training needs                                                               
6.5: Relationship health assessment                                                                     
6.6: Starting with You                                                                                             
6.7:  Relationship health next steps: An invitation                                          

Appendices                                                                                                               
Appendix 1:: Restoring relationship health: professionals &  parents        
Appendix 2:  Keys to effective practice                                                            
Appendix 3:  Case studies and about Dr Cathy Betoin                                   

As a guiding idea Relationship Health has wide applicability so it will help you even if you are too busy to think about anything much else.  It is a helpful idea whether you are talking about Adult-Child relationships or whether you are talking about Adult-Adult Relationships. 

 Relationship Health as an idea works at home and in school and community settings with typical and vulnerable children.   It works in everyday situations and in the most challenging situation.    Its an idea that everyone can understand and so it helps start conversations that move things forward.

What's more I want you to know that Relationship Health has a solid theoretical foundation for practice that I have developed based on years of trying to figure out what was missing.  I have called it the I Matter Framework - which you might like to learn about too.


RELATIONSHIP HEALTH: THE MISSING LINK IN CHILDREN'S WELLBEING 

GET THE eBOOK HERE 


WITH THE FOLLOWING BONUSES


Bonus #1   Downloadable poster for the Five Steps to Success

Bonus #2   Downloadable decision making tree - what should we fund

Bonus #3   6 x 15min recordings of professionals and parents discussing the issues in the book (coming soon)



HERE'S WHAT A FEW PEOPLE HAVE SAID ABOUT THE FIRST BOOK SO FAR

I couldn't agree more, that if we want to see improvements in children's well being
then we have to invest in doing what we know makes the difference - manuscript reviewer


This book is needed right now, as professionals we can sometimes hide behind professional titles when the truth is our own relationships are complicated and challenging too.

So, You may be wondering about the bonuses?


Bonus #1:  A downloadable full colour graphic of the Five Steps to Success
This poster provides a connecting idea in Relationship Health practice.  If we want to improve Relationship Health we need to know not just what the problem is but where we are going.

Bonus #2:  A downloadable decision making tree called What should be fund?
If you want a fast track to the conclusions of Relationship Health thinking for everyday practice decisions this downloadable graphic will set out the essentials of the way forward. 

Bonus #3 About the Professional and Parent-Carer Conversation Recordings
Change in the way we think about what children really need happens only when we have conversations about important questions with other professionals and with parents.    Conversations and reflection are the powerful drivers that introduce new possibilities and light bulb moments.  
So in this collection of recordings you will get to listen into professionals talking about the book and about their own professional and personal experiences

You may also be wondering about what else there is to learn about this important topic?

IF YOU FIND THIS BOOK INTERESTING THERE ARE A FEW OTHER LEARNING OPTIONS

+ Membership to the Relationship Health Matters Community via our social media groups

+ The other two books in the trilogy:   
The I Matter Framework:  Restoring Relationship Health to Child and Family Practice
The I Matter Method: Five Overlooked Priorities in Supporting Children's Wellbeing


+ The I Matter Relationship health Learning Journey Online Course.

ABOUT THE RELATIONSHIP HEALTH MATTERS COMMUNITY

I don't know about you, but it's quite clear that if we want to make an impact on what is currently happening or rather not happening in children's mental health practice there is going to be a need for some team work.  

Sitting around hoping someone will change the policies isn't going to move anything on.

So if you want to network with others and be part of bringing about these shifts in your own community, the Relationship Health Matters Community is being set up as a way to promote Relationship Health as an umbrella concept that joins up disparate and disconnected thinking and as a way to help you build impactful networks with others.  If you would like to join, and be part of creating something new the membership will currently offer a monthly discussion with professionals and parents-carers-partners who are working in the field or experts by experience about the work they are doing.  Then who knows how things might evolve!

ABOUT THE OTHER TWO BOOKS

If you decide to sign up for the Relationship Health book you will see that I make reference to something called the I Matter Framework.   The I Matter Framework is the result of more than 20 years of puzzling about what the research evidence was telling us was needed to help children and adults thrive.  

Book two in the trilogy is called:  The I Matter Framework: Restoring Relationship Health to Child and Family practice.    It introduces the theory on which Relationship Health practice is based.

Book three in the trilogy is called: The I Matter Method:  Five Overlooked Priorities in Supporting the Wellbeing of Children.   This third book is focused on theory to practice and gets into the nitty gritty of what to do and what to focus on if you want to approach your role with children in a home or work setting with an I Matter approach.

ABOUT THE I MATTER RELATIONSHIP HEALTH LEARNING JOURNEY

If you really want to learn more then you could also sign up for the online I Matter Framework Core Learning Journey Online course where you will get an introduction to the theoretical and practical foundations of Relationship Health practice.  In the core journey I share the principles that underpin the way I approach family life and my clinical role.

Here's What's Included in the Online I Matter Framework Core Learning Journey.
The course is structured using the Five Steps Process

Step 1: Acknowledge the Fog
Step 2:  Become Informed
Step 3: Take Care of You and Build Yourself a Team
Step 4:  Connect and Take Charge
Step 5:  Fine Tuning

Each of these steps is fleshed out with Step 1-2 introducing the theoretical foundations of Relationship Health practice, Step 3-4 offering theory to practice and Step 5 introducing the Applications of Relationship Health practice.

Here's what people say about their I Matter Learning Journey?

I have done years of training, but this course is what brought it all together for me, so I suddenly understood what I had learned and what my own role was.  This is the course that changed my practice - Caroline - School SENCO

"If more professionals understood the implications of the I Matter Framework the impact would be huge on our practices.   I am excited to be part of making a difference"  - Sarah - Teaching Assistant

“The Kendal Integrated Care Community has adopted the I Matter Framework as a foundation for our thinking about how to work together in our community to help children and young people and families through improved Relationship Health. Professionals and parents are learning together. It feels good.”  Dr Amy Lee - GP Safeguarding Lead

So I really hope you will be interested in learning more

GET THE eBOOK HERE


Cathy 

Dr Cathy Betoin
Clinical Psychologist, Teacher and Parent

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PS   Quick Recap for those who hate these long letters

1.  We have a problem in our approach to addressing children's mental health and wellbeing

2.  This book sets out a case for why Relationship Health is the Missing Link in Children's Wellbeing 

3.  The optional membership offers you the option to join with others concerned about the same things and passionate about making a difference

4.  The optional online course introduces you to the I Matter Framework which offers a theoretical foundation for Relationship Health practice based on a practical integration of decades of research evidence about what is needed to see children thrive.

ABOUT ME

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My name is Dr Cathy Betoin - I am a practising CLinical Psychologist, an experienced teacher and a parent.   I wrote this book after many years of practice with 9-12 waiting lists and seeing far too many struggling children and families caught in a system that was not meeting absolutely fundamental needs.  I wrote this book because it seems to me that if we are serious about helping children some urgent rethinking about what the research evidence is REALLY staying is now needed.

You can make a difference!

GUARANTEE:   If you buy the book now and then change your mind, you have 30 days after purchase of the book and bonuses to request a refund.  If for some reason you don't find it informative, I will refund the whole £9.99