I Matter Core Programme:  Discover the I Matter Framework

Professionals and Parents: Your Mission (should you choose to accept it) is to be sitting down in 2 months or less (or maybe a little bit more :)) with a completed I Matter Certificate in your hand, feeling relieved and proud to know that you have been equipping yourself for more confidence in your important roles at home and/or at work - AND... what's more you have been enjoying the process.

 The I Matter Core Learning Journey introduces you to the clear practical thinking of the I Matter Framework. A strong understanding of the I Matter Framework will help guide your decisions with the relationships that matter most, so healthier happier relationships can emerge. 




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Welcome to I Matter Training for Professionals and Determined Parents-Carers.  My name is Dr Cathy Betoin and I am a practising clinical psychologist and an experienced teacher.

I Matter Training helps you build yourself strong foundations for your very important role.  Training can help professionals and parents-carers of typical children.  It can be even more important for professionals and parents-carers of children with additional needs or challenges.

However all parents start off with the I Matter Clinic and Step 1, before progressing.  Professionals start on a combined Step 1-2 course and don't need to complete the clinic step.   

I Matter Core Training has three key steps: 
i)  Registration and preparation with an initial Getting Started webinar helping you to think about your current situation and the steps needed to help you feel clearer and more confident. The I Matter Clinic process for parents-carers offers a slower careful process for this stage. 
ii) Learning about the I Matter Framework helping you to learn more essential ideas that will help you understand how to work with others to find a practical and effective way forward to help children who are struggling in home or professional roles
iii) Thinking about support needed to put your learning into practice so that you can achieve sustained  results. 

DISCLAIMER:  The core programme is an educational programme and is not a substitute for informed local professional help. If you are facing current challenges, please ensure that you seek out locally informed support. We are working with members to increase the availability of clinic services.

The I Matter focus is always on equipping you with the insight and skills that help you building or restoring improved relationship health.  We strive to provide high quality learning experience that guides you in a step wise fashion towards confidence in helping yourself and your child

What's the Problem?

  • You can see the pressures your child is facing 
  • You don't want to drift into unhealthy patterns
  • You are confused by conflicting advice
  • You've heard about or tried so many things
  • You want to strengthen relationship health
  • You are not sure where to start
  • You're unclear about what to focus on
  • You know you need a team approach

How will I Matter Training help you?
 When you understand what is happening at a deeper level - and take a step by step approach - everything looks different and your decision making will change

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Confusion to Clarity

Training in the I Matter Framework offers a way of understanding everyday and complex problems that just makes sense. You will start on strong foundations.

Results Focussed

An I Matter Approach helps you and others to work together.  It helps you focus on the skills you and your child need to see results on the details that matter  

Extended Support

We plan for a longer view - You've got time to find your feet and focus on the details without hunting for a quick fix.  This is a learning journey that takes time for everyone.

A Carefully Stepped Plan


First you choose a child that you want to think about as you work through the training in a professional or personal role and you complete a brief registration. 


Then you spend some time studying the I Matter Framework in more depth so that you can understand what the research is saying about how to best help your child.


We help you review what support will help you as you keep building confidence in putting your learning into practice to support healthier happier relationships with your child


I was skeptical that after so long, anything could help my son, but my husband and I worked through the courses and then we were supported to make key changes.   A few months on, I can't believe the difference.  We enjoy family time and simple things that others take for granted but mean such a lot"


-Fiona C
Parent and professional 

An I Matter approach helps you to help all your relationships

Why an I Matter Approach is different..?

Our Mission and Your Mission... should you choose to accept it... is to develop your insight and skills so you can help one or more focus children with anxious or challenging behaviour and with building healthy relationships  

Through participation in an I Matter Challenge you will carefully explore what important research evidence on children’s mental health and well-being is REALLY saying - so that in 1-6 months time, you and others will be moving forward with confidence in  personal, professional and/or organisational roles  to make a positive and sustained difference for one or more children - and for yourself.  

The I Matter Core Programme 

The I Matter Training Core Programme is all about learning the basic I Matter framework focussing on your own direct relationships with children in home or work roles.  Some parents who access the core programme via an I Matter Clinic get additional support through an assessment and recommendations process and focussed coaching

Step 1: Acknowledge the

First Steps: 

In the First Steps Course you are introduced to an I Matter Approach and to some of the initial starting ideas

Step 2:
Become Informed:

The I Matter Intensive :

The I Matter Intensive introduces the core theory on which an I Matter Approach is based 

Step 3:
Take Care of You Take Stock:

Check In:

In the check in process we explore how to use assessments to see what the next steps and priorities are

Step 4:
Develop Routines:

Watching Affectionately:

This is a theory to practice stage in which we focus on supporting the routines that will support progress in everyday situations 

Step 5:
Fine Tuning:

The Skills of the Wellbeing Wheel

The I Matter Network and Wellbeing Wheel explore the everyday applications and skills


Initial questionnaire (10 mins)  
Preparation Step- Approx 1 hour

In this session you will learn about the Five Steps Process
that will help build your confidence with your anxious or challenging child

Step 1: First Steps:  Nuggets and Gem - Approx 3 hours
Week 1 Getting Started Workshop/Webinar
In this session you will learn about symptoms of stress and

the symptoms of wellbeing so you can start observing
more accurately.  You will also learn about the I Matter
Model and how it can help you.
The Essentials of Attachment
You will have 14 days with a 5 minute clip each day on a key idea 
You will learn the process of looking out for Nuggets and GEMS

Step 2:  Become Informed:  The Pillars of the I Matter Framework - Approx 14 hours
Section 1 Getting Started Workshop in more depth
In this section we will review the Getting Started
Workshop and the I Matter Model going into more depth
Section 2 Essential I Matter Ideas
In this session you will learn 6 Essential ideas
needed for helping a child who is anxious or challenging
Section 3  An Introduction to Attachment
In this session you will learn about how children
develop in the context of relationships including your role
Section 4  An introduction to Alarm and the Brain
In this session you will learn a powerful and
practical way of understanding how the brain functions
Section 5  How children start thinking
In this section you will learn about the way
in which your actions support your child’s development
Section 6  The power of our beliefs and attitudes
In this section you will learn about the way
in which our beliefs & attitudes impact the way our brains work

Step 3   Take Care of You Build Yourself a Team:  Take Stock = Approx 4 hours
Section 1   Reviewing what's happening in your home/work setting
and getting clear about the way forward
In this section you will learn more about the

styles of parenting-caring or teaching that most help children thrive
Section 2   Assessing the Needs: Big Picture and Small Details
In this section you will learn how to observe
carefully so as to know what actions & skills to support & why

Step 4:   Connect and Take Charge:  Build Routines I Matter Process -Approx 8 hours
Section 1   Building Everyday routines
In this section you will learn how routines are the
way to build connections and set effective limits
Section 2   Helping with upset feelings and conflict
In this section you will learn about the I Matter Process

and the way of supporting with upset feelings
Section 3   Building inner resources
In this section you will learn about how to build
up your child’s inner resources through your own actions
Section 4   Supporting with Common Challenges
In this section you will learn about how to
address some of the common challenges seen in children

Step 5: Fine Tuning of Therapeutic Care:  The I Matter Wheel 2 hours/pcm

The 12 Life Skills Sections


Course options 

Registration for autumn programme opens on the 15th August 2021 
If you want to be the eligible for the 10% Early Bird Discount, register via the link in order be the first to know
Professionals can join the I Matter Core Journey Step 1-2 without need of the I Matter clinic
(currently Weds afternoon) or self-paced with forum)

join the I Matter Journey via the I Matter Clinic and Step 1
(currently Tuesday afternoon or Weds morning in Kendal- Parents-Carers must have support of an I Matter Approved Professional)
Step 2-4 Parent-Carer Core Journey is on Tues Evening or self-paced with forum)


I Matter Introductions


Range of options

Introduction sessions

Start to explore what is involved in an I Matter Approach.

I Matter Clinic for Parents


Required for all parents before the Core journey

+ Initial 20 minute Call
+ In-depth registration questionnaire
+ 90 minute Getting Started Webinar
+ 14 day Essentials of Attachment - 5mins a day
+ 3 x 1hr sessions of discussion  
+ 1 hour Personalised Review  with Recommendations
+ Optional brief report
£500 for 2 adults in the same family

Option to listen only.
To progress to Step 2 requires completion of I Matter Online Step 1

Core Step 1-2


Introducing the Pillars of the I Matter Framework

18 hours study

Step 1: First Step
Step 2: I Matter Intensive

12m Forum Membership 

Optional next steps:
Step 3-4
Step 5: The Wheel
Extended Journey
Assessment and Recommendation
sSmall group study support
Intensive coaching
Pesrsonal Coachiing

Step 3-4


Explore I Matter Theory to Practice

12 hours of sttudy

Step 3: Take Stock
Step 4: Develop Routines

Forum Membership 

Optional extras/next steps:
Step 5 The Wheel
Extended Journey
Assessment and Recommendation
sSmall group study support
Intensive coaching
Pesrsonal Coachiing

Steo 1-4


I Matter Core Theory and Theory to Practice

30 hours of study

Step 1: First Steps
Step 2: I Matter Intensive
Step 3: Take Stock
Step 4: Develop Routines
12m Forum Membership

Optional extras:
Step 3: The Wheel
Extended Journey
Assessment and Recommendations
Small group study support
Intensive coaching
Pesrsonal Coachiing

I Matter Training

“I loved this course and learned so much”


I Matter Training

“This course helped us work better together”


Its hard to see a child who is struggling - but it's never too late to make a difference
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