The I Matter Learning Journey:  Helping You to Help Your Child

 Parents-Carers:  Your Mission (should you choose to accept it) is to equip yourself with the vital knowledge and skills needed to assist your anxious or challenging child and other family members with their challenges.  Through a step by step approach you will learn the clear practical thinking of the I Matter Framework...and make a positive difference for your child... AND.. gain valued certificates...  AND, what's more, whilst enjoying the process on the way!  



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Welcome to I Matter Training for Determined Parents-Carers.  My name is Dr Cathy Betoin and I am a practising clinical psychologist and an experienced teacher.

I Matter Training for Parents is intended to provide you with vital knowledge and skills that will support you in your important role in helping your child and wider family members.   Training can help parents-carers of typical children.  It can be even more important for parents-carers of children with additional needs or challenges.

I Matter Training has three key pathways
i) Pathway 1:  Awareness of Relationship Health (BLUE) This is designed for those who are wanting to learn more but don't have any major concerns.  This pathway is offered in partnership with member schools and services.
ii) Pathway 2:  Strengthening of Relationship Health (RED) This is for parents-carers who want to learn more and study in more depth so as to support their own families and loved ones - again with a focus on helping with typical needs and challenges
iii) Pathway 3:  Restoring Relationship Health (CLINIC plus BLUE then RED then YELLOW)  This is for those where some challenges or additional needs are present and a more focussed approach and a longer view is needed.   The clinics are run in partnership with member organisations. 

The I Matter focus is always on equipping you with the insight and skills that help you building or restoring improved relationship health.  We strive to provide high quality services offering a welcoming learning experience that guides you in a step wise fashion towards confidence in helping yourself and your child

What's the Problem?

  • You can see the pressures your child is facing 
  • You don't want to drift into unhealthy patterns
  • You are confused by conflicting advice
  • You've heard about or tried so many things
  • You want to strengthen relationship health
  • You are not sure where to start
  • You're unclear about what to focus on
  • You know you need a team approach

How will I Matter Training help you?
 When you understand what is happening at a deeper level - and take a step by step approach - everything looks different and your decision making will change

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Confusion to Clarity

Training in the I Matter Framework offers a way of understanding everyday and complex problems that just makes sense. You will start on strong foundations.

Results Focussed

An I Matter Approach helps you and others to work together.  It helps you focus on the skills you and your child need to see results on the details that matter  

Extended Support

We plan for a longer view - You've got time to find your feet and focus on the details without hunting for a quick fix.  This is a learning journey that takes time for everyone.

A Carefully Stepped Plan


First you choose a child that you want to think about in a personal role as you work through the training and you complete a brief registration. 


Then you spend some time studying the I Matter Framework so that you can understand what the research is saying about how to best help your child.


We help you keep building confidence in putting your learning into practice to support healthier happier relationships with your child


I was skeptical that after so long, anything could help my son, but my husband and I worked through the courses and then we were supported to make key changes.   A few months on, I can't believe the difference.  We enjoy family time and simple things that others take for granted but mean such a lot"


-Fiona C
Parent and professional 

An I Matter approach helps you to help all your relationships

The I Matter Core Programme 

The I Matter Training Core Programme is all about learning the basic framework and your own direct relationships with children.    Some parents who join the core programme get additional support through an assessment and recommendations process and focussed coaching

Step 1: Acknowledge the

First Steps: 

In the First Steps Course you are introduced to an I Matter Approach and to some of the initial starting ideas

Step 2:
Become Informed:

The I Matter Intensive :

The I Matter Intensive introduces the core theory on which an I Matter Approach is based 

Step 3:
Take Care of You Take Stock:

Check In:

In the check in process we explore how to use assessments to see what the next steps and priorities are

Step 4:
Develop Routines:

Watching Affectionately:

This is a theory to practice stage in which we focus on supporting the routines that will support progress in everyday situations 

Step 5:
Fine Tuning:

The Skills of the Wellbeing Wheel

The I Matter Network and Wellbeing Wheel explore the everyday applications and skills

more details


Run in partnership with member organisations
The Fundamentals:  Step 1-2  Getting Started and the Essentials of Attachment
The Life Skills:: Step 3-4  Taking Stock and the Essentials of Home Routines
Step 5:  The Local Wheel

Run in partnership with member organisations
In-depth online questionnaire
Fundamentals Training 
Consultation and Recommendations 
The outcome of an I Matter Clinic is a Priorities Plan




Initial questionnaire (10 mins)  
Preparation Step- Approx 1 hour

You will learn about the Five Steps Process
that will help build your confidence with your anxious or challenging child

Step 1: First Steps:  Nuggets and Gem - Approx 3 hours
Week 1 Getting Started Workshop/Webinar
 You will learn about symptoms of stress and

the symptoms of wellbeing so you can start observing
more accurately.  You will also learn about the I Matter
Model and how it can help you.
The Essentials of Attachment
You will have 14 days with a 5 minute clip each day on a key idea 
You will learn the process of looking out for Nuggets and GEMS

Step 2:  Become Informed:  The Pillars of the I Matter Framework - Approx 14 hours
Section 1 Getting Started Workshop and the I Matter Model (in more depth)
We will review the Getting Started
Workshop and the I Matter Model going into more depth
Section 2 Essential I Matter Ideas
You will learn 6 Essential ideas
needed for helping a child who is anxious or challenging
Section 3  An Introduction to Attachment and your role
You will learn about how children
develop in the context of relationships including your role
Section 4  An introduction to Alarm and the Brain
You will learn a powerful and
practical way of understanding how the brain functions
Section 5  How children start thinking and your role
You will learn about the way
in which your actions support your child’s development
Section 6  The power of our beliefs and attitudes
You will learn about the way
in which our beliefs & attitudes impact the way our brains work

Step 1-2 are supported by 6 x 1 hour group Q&A or by self-paced forum

Step 3   Take Care of You Build Yourself a Team:  Take Stock = Approx 4 hours
Section 1   Reviewing what's happening in your home/work setting
and getting clear about the way forward
You will learn more about the

styles of parenting-caring or teaching that most help children thrive
Section 2   Assessing the Needs: Big Picture and Small Details
You will learn how to observe
carefully so as to know what actions & skills to support & why

Step 4:   Connect and Take Charge:  Build Routines I Matter Process -Approx 8 hours
Section 1   Building Everyday routines
You will learn how routines are the
way to build connections and set effective limits
Section 2   Helping with upset feelings and conflict
You will learn about the I Matter Process

and the way of supporting with upset feelings
Section 3   Building inner resources
You will learn about how to build
up your child’s inner resources through your own actions
Section 4   Supporting with Common Challenges
You will learn about how to
address some of the common challenges seen in children

Step 3-4 are supported by 6 x 1 hour group Q&A or self-paced forum

Step 5: Fine Tuning of Therapeutic Care:  The I Matter Wheel 2 hours/pcm

The 12 Life Skills Sections


Extended Journey

Supporting Others
Supporting Others on an I Matter Journey
Advanced Practitioner Training


ALSO (once two staff members have completed Core Step 1-4)
Organisational Membership
Team Development Programme
Helping you build capacity 

Course options 

I Matter Clinic with Fundamentals


Range of options

via organisational members only

Initial Call
In-depth online assessment 

Fundamentals Training
90min Getting Started Workshop
Essentials of Attachment
3 1 hour small group discussions

1 hour discussion and agreement of a Priorities Plan

Option to complete online and 
Option to progress to Core Journey

Two adults in the same family £500

Core Step 1-2


Introducing the Pillars of the I Matter Framework

18 hours study

Step 1: First Step
Step 2: I Matter Intensive

12m Forum Membership 

Optional next steps:
Step 3-4
Step 5: The Wheel
Extended Journey
Assessment and Recommendation
sSmall group study support
Intensive coaching
Pesrsonal Coachiing

Step 3-4


Explore I Matter Theory to Practice

12 hours of sttudy

Step 3: Take Stock
Step 4: Develop Routines

Forum Membership 

Optional extras/next steps:
Step 5 The Wheel
Extended Journey
Assessment and Recommendation
sSmall group study support
Intensive coaching
Pesrsonal Coachiing

Steo 1-4


I Matter Core Theory and Theory to Practice

30 hours of study

Step 1: First Steps
Step 2: I Matter Intensive
Step 3: Take Stock
Step 4: Develop Routines
12m Forum Membership

Optional extras:
Step 3: The Wheel
Extended Journey
Assessment and Recommendations
Small group study support
Intensive coaching
Pesrsonal Coachiing

I Matter Training

“I loved this course and learned so much”


I Matter Training

“This course helped us work better together”


Its hard to see a child who is struggling - but it's never too late to make a difference
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