Preparation for the Parent and Carer Role:
Discover an I Matter Approach  

 Explore the clear practical thinking of the I Matter Framework to help you feel clear and well prepared for your important role with the children or other family members that you care so much about




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Welcome to I Matter Training for Parents-Carers.  My name is Dr Cathy Betoin and I am a practising clinical psychologist and an experienced teacher.

I Matter Preparation for Parents and Carers has three key strands: 
i) Introductions and core everyday awareness training about the important adult role
ii) For new parents and carers or where there are mild concerns about a child or family member helping you to find a practical and effective way forward putting relationship health at the centre
iii) For parents and carers where there are going to be known complex and additional needs for a child or family member and a need for a longer term results focussed plan

The I Matter focus is always on maximising or restoring relationship health.  We strive to provide high quality services offering a welcoming learning experience that guides you in a step wise fashion towards confidence in helping yourself and your child and other family members

What's the Current Issue?

  • You're looking forward to your role
  • You want to work well with others
  • You don't know what to focus on
  • You've seen conflicting advice
  • You want to start strong
  • You want to feel well prepared
  • You are a little nervous 
  • You are ready to make time to study
  • You want a supportive community
  • You're determined to do your best

How will I Matter Preparation Training help you?

 When you understand what is happening at a deeper level - everything looks different and your decision making will change and your confidence will grow

Confusion to Clarity

Training in the I Matter Framework offers a way of understanding everyday and complex problems that just makes sense

Results Focussed

Assessment and guidance ensures that you and others can work together keeping focussed on results and on the details that matter  

Extended Support

We plan for a longer view - You've got time to find your feet and focus on the details over a longer term journey.


I was looking forward to being a parent and an adopter.   
However I hadn't expected it to be quite so hard. This training helped me think differently about my role and about the way forward

-Sam D
Parent of child with additional needs.

A Carefully Stepped Plan


First you complete a brief registration so we can recommend a customised plan.  This can be followed by an assessment, some initial training, a consultation and an initial recommendations process


Then you spend some time studying the I Matter Framework in more depth so that you can understand what the research is saying about how to best help your child.


Then we support you as you build your confidence in putting your learning into practice so as to support healthier happier relationships with your child

An I Matter approach helps you to help your child

Why an I Matter Approach is different..?

Our Mission and Your Mission... should you choose to accept it... is to equip yourself with insight and skills so you can help your focus child to progress confidently with their social development and wellbeing

Through participation in an I Matter Challenge you will carefully explore what important research evidence on children’s mental health and well-being is REALLY saying - so that in 1-6 months time, you and others will be moving forward with confidence in your important roles  to make a positive and sustained difference for one or more children - and for yourself.  

A Carefully Stepped Plan: Awareness Stage

The first stages of I Matter Training are all about awareness and your own direct relationships with children and other family members.   

Step 1: Acknowledge the

First Steps: 

In the First Steps Course you are introduced to an I Matter Approach and to some of the initial starting ideas

Step 2:
Become Informed:

The I Matter Intensive :

The I Matter Intensive introduces the core theory on which an I Matter Approach is based 

Step 3:
Take Care of You Take Stock:

Check In:

In the check in process we explore how to use assessments to see what the next steps and priorities are

Step 4:
Develop Routines:

Watching Affectionately:

This is a theory to practice stage with active coaching that gives you feedback on your  practice

Step 5:
Fine Tuning:

The Skills of the Wellbeing Wheel

The I Matter Network and Wellbeing Wheel explore the everyday applications and skills

The Extended Journey: Stage 1: Deepen and Extend

The extended journey is an option for those who support children with raised concerns where there is a need for more support over a longer period of time.  This is also a confidence building stage for those interested in going onto supporting others.

Foundation Stage 

You will revisit all of the key elements of the I Matter Framework.  This time, concepts and ideas will feel more familiar and your confidence will be stronger

Intermediate Stage

We will go into much more detail about the process of development, helping you understand what to look out for and why and how to use your understanding

Advanced Stage

Then we apply the I Matter Framework to a wide range of specialist situations to explore how the I Matter Framework can inform effective decisision making

What's Included in the Step 1: First Steps?

The First Steps Course is provided with support from member organisations with Lead & Link Professionals

Brief Registration

We aim to guide you with a plan to
meet your needs

Getting Started and First Steps Training 

In the first stages of training we aim
to introduce you to some key ideas that
will help you to help your child

What happens if you want to progress further?

If you are a parent-carer who wants to progress on a more in-depth I Matter Journey then you must complete our in-depth registration and consultation process.  Please note: If you are preparing for the care of a child with additional needs eg as an adopter or a foster carer, then, some of this process may be delayed until the suitable moment.

In-depth Registration

Where there are Raised Concerns 
there is a more in-depth registration process

A Consultation

In the consultation we explore your initial 
learning and talk through next steps options.

What's Included in the Step 2:  I Matter Intensive Course?

Module 1
Explore the symptoms of stress and
the symptoms of wellbeing and
the I Matter Model, Framework and Process
Module 2
6 Essential well researched Ideas
for understanding the way forward in challenging situations
Module 3
Attachment Relationships - what
they are and why they matter
Module 4
An I Matter understanding of the
Brain and the Alarm response to threat
Module 5
How Children start Thinking -
Essential aspects of the Adult role
Module 6
The Power of Our Beliefs and Attitudes
- what you need to know as key in your role

Extension Options for Parents-Carers

Step 3: Using Assessment Effectively

On completion of the Intensive we look
in detail at how to assess your child's needs & progress.

Step 4: Theory to Practice Coaching

Theory to Practice coaching is an opportunity
to get immediate daily feedback on

Step 5: Join the I Matter Core Network

Be part of an I Matter Informed
Community and explore applications

Become a Link Parent or Parent Mentor

Share the benefits of your
learning with others.

Bespoke Support Package

Work with us via a customised plan 
of individualised support

Join the Extended Journey

Get longer term support in
putting Theory into practice

Extras and Bonuses

Weekly Discussion Groups

Opportunities to ask questions and learn
with others

Q&A Community Wheel Library

Learn about the applications of 
I Matter to a range of everyday challenges

Intensive Community Forum

Support for your learning journey.

I Matter Active Network Membership

An opportunity to extend your learning
on completion of the Intensive

Funding Options for Parents-Carers

Please contact us if you have questions

Self Funding

You apply with a recommendation from a professional who knows you and your child - preferably someone who has completed the I Matter Intensive and is an approved Link Professional.

Bursary Funding

You are working with an approved I Matter Lead Professional who has applied for funding through their own systems or via our bursary scheme.    Those eligible for a bursary are always asked to contribute something.

Costs and Options for Parents-Carers

Every family and situation is a little bit different and so we aim to customise the core I Matter Journey to meet varied needs.  The basic I Matter Training for Preparation or Prevention consists of the First Steps with the option to progress to the I Matter Intensive Course.  

If you decide you want to pursue the Intensive course then we advise an assessment and recommendations process so as to ensure you can get best value from your learning.  There is a lot to learn and the process of learning takes commitment. 

If there are no major concerns and you have the support of an I Matter Link or Lead Professional you can contact us about getting started on First Steps training.  

I Matter Training

“I loved this course and learned so much”


I Matter Training

“This course helped us work better together”


Its hard to see a child who is struggling - but it's never too late to make a difference
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