Parents and Carers: Discover an I Matter Approach to Supporting Your Anxious or Challenging Child

 Explore the clear practical thinking of the I Matter Framework to help you find the way forward
with the child or young person that you worry most about




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Welcome to I Matter Training for Parents-Carers.  My name is Dr Cathy Betoin and I am a practising clinical psychologist and an experienced teacher.

I Matter for Parents and Carers where there are raised concerns has three key strands: 
i) Introductions and core everyday awareness training about the important adult role
ii) For parents and carers with mild-moderate raised concerns about a child helping you to find a practical and effective way forward
iii) For parents and carers where there are complex and additional needs for a child and a need for a longer term results focussed plan

The I Matter focus is always on restoring relationship health.  We strive to provide high quality services offering a welcoming learning experience that guides you in a step wise fashion towards confidence in helping yourself and your child

What's the Problem?

  • Anxious or Challenging Behaviour
  • You don't know where to start
  • You are confused by conflicting advice
  • You've tried so many things
  • You want to help your child
  • You fear things may never get better
  • The difficulties have been > 9 months
  • You're unclear about what to focus on

How will I Matter Training help you?

 When you understand what is happening at a deeper level - everything looks different and your decision making will change

Confusion to Clarity

Training in the I Matter Framework offers a way of understanding everyday and complex problems that just makes sense. You will start on strong foundations.

Results Focussed

Assessment and guidance ensures that you and others can work together keeping focussed on the skills you and your child need to see results on the details that matter  

Extended Support

We plan for a longer view - You've got time to find your feet and focus on the details without hunting for a quick fix.  This is a learning journey that takes time for everyone.


I was skeptical that after so long, anything could help, but the approach carefully taught us ideas and then supported us as we made key changes.   Just a few months later, I can't believe the changes - we are all working together and our child is so much happier and more confident."


-Mary D
Parent and professional of child with complex anxiety.

A Carefully Stepped Plan


First you complete a brief registration so we can recommend a customised plan.  This can be followed by an assessment, some initial training, a consultation and an initial recommendations process


Then you spend some time studying the I Matter Framework in more depth so that you can understand what the research is saying about how to best help your child.


Then we support you as you build your confidence in putting your learning into practice so as to support healthier happier relationships with your child

An I Matter approach helps you to help your child

Why an I Matter Approach is different..?

Our Mission and Your Mission... should you choose to accept it... is to develop your insight and skills so you can help your focus child with their anxious or challenging behaviour.  

Through participation in an I Matter Challenge you will carefully explore what important research evidence on children’s mental health and well-being is REALLY saying - so that in 1-6 months time, you and others will be moving forward with confidence in  personal, professional and/or organisational roles  to make a positive and sustained difference for one or more children - and for yourself.  

A Carefully Stepped Plan: Awareness Stage

The first stages of I Matter Training are all about awareness and your own direct relationships with children.   The focus is on professionals who work in schools or in direct care roles.

Step 1: Acknowledge the

First Steps: 

In the First Steps Course you are introduced to an I Matter Approach and to some of the initial starting ideas

Step 2:
Become Informed:

The I Matter Intensive :

The I Matter Intensive introduces the core theory on which an I Matter Approach is based 

Step 3:
Take Care of You Take Stock:

Check In:

In the check in process we explore how to use assessments to see what the next steps and priorities are

Step 4:
Develop Routines:

Watching Affectionately:

This is a theory to practice stage with active coaching that gives you feedback on your  practice

Step 5:
Fine Tuning:

The Skills of the Wellbeing Wheel

The I Matter Network and Wellbeing Wheel explore the everyday applications and skills

The Extended Journey: Stage 1: Deepen and Extend

The extended journey is an option for those who support children with raised concerns where there is a need for more support over a longer period of time.  This is also a confidence building stage for those interested in going onto supporting others.

Foundation Stage 

You will revisit all of the key elements of the I Matter Framework.  This time, concepts and ideas will feel more familiar and your confidence will be stronger

Intermediate Stage

We will go into much more detail about the process of development, helping you understand what to look out for and why and how to use your understanding

Advanced Stage

Then we apply the I Matter Framework to a wide range of specialist situations to explore how the I Matter Framework can inform effective decisision making

What's Included in the First Steps Starter Consultation?

Brief Registration

We aim to guide you with a plan to
meet your needs

In-depth Registration

Where there are Raised Concerns 
there is a more in-depth registration process

Getting Started and First Steps Training 

In the first stages of training we aim
to introduce you to some key ideas that
will help you to help your child

A Consultation

In the consultation we explore your initial 
learning and talk through next steps options.

What's Included in the I Matter Intensive Course?

Module 1
Explore the symptoms of stress and
the symptoms of wellbeing and
the I Matter Model, Framework and Process
Module 2
6 Essential well researched Ideas
for understanding the way
forward in challenging situations
Module 3
Attachment Relationships - what
they are and why they matter
Module 4
An I Matter Understanding of the Brain
and of the alarm response to threat
Module 5
How Children start Thinking -
Essential Aspects of the Adult role
Module 6
The Power of Our Beliefs and Attitudes
- What you need to know as key in your role

Bonuses and Extras 

Weekly Discussion Groups

Opportunities to ask questions and learn
with others

Community Forum

Support for your learning journey.

Q&A Community Wheel Library

Learn about the applications of 
I Matter to a range of everyday challenges

I Matter Core Network Membership

An opportunity to extend your learning
on completion of the Intensive

Extension Options for Parents-Carers

Bespoke Support Package

Work with us via a customised plan 
of individualised support

Join the I Matter Network

Be part of an I Matter Informed
Community and explore applications

Using Assessment Effectively

On completion of the Intensive we look
in detail at how to assess your child's needs & progress.

Theory to Practice Coaching

Theory to Practice coaching is an opportunity
to get immediate daily feedback on

Join the Extended Journey

Get longer term support in
putting Theory into practice

Become a Link Parent or Parent Mentor

Share the benefits of your
learning with others.

Costs and Options for Parents-Carers

Every family and situation is a little bit different and so we aim to customise the core I Matter Journey to meet varied needs.  The basic I Matter Training consists of the First Steps and the I Matter Intensive Course.  After this there is an Extended Journey. 

However if you have a child where there are some Raised Concerns then the most important first step is an in depth assessment and recommendations process and there is a need to think about a longer term study plan because I Matter doesn't offer any quick fixes.  There is a lot to learn and the process of learning takes commitment.  If you have the support of an I Matter Link or Lead Professional you can contact us for a conversation about what options are possible.  

Funding Options for Parents-Carers

Please contact us if you have questions

Self Funding

You apply with a recommendation from a professional who knows you and your child - preferably someone who has completed the I Matter Intensive and is an approved Link Professional.

Bursary Funding

You are working with an approved I Matter Lead Professional who has applied for funding through their own systems or via our bursary scheme.    Those eligible for a bursary are always asked to contribute something.

I Matter Training

“I loved this course and learned so much”


I Matter Training

“This course helped us work better together”


Its hard to see a child who is struggling - but it's never too late to make a difference
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