Parents and Carers: Discover an I Matter Approach to Supporting Your Anxious or Challenging Child
Explore the clear practical thinking of the I Matter Framework to help you find the way forward
with the child or young person that you worry most about
Welcome to I Matter Training for Parents-Carers. My name is Dr Cathy Betoin and I am a practising clinical psychologist and an experienced teacher.
I Matter for Parents and Carers where there are raised concerns has three key strands:
i) Introductions and core everyday awareness training about the important adult role
ii) For parents and carers with mild-moderate raised concerns about a child helping you to find a practical and effective way forward
iii) For parents and carers where there are complex and additional needs for a child and a need for a longer term results focussed plan
The I Matter focus is always on restoring relationship health. We strive to provide high quality services offering a welcoming learning experience that guides you in a step wise fashion towards confidence in helping yourself and your child
What's the Problem?
- Anxious or Challenging Behaviour
- You don't know where to start
- You are confused by conflicting advice
- You've tried so many things
- You want to help your child
- You fear things may never get better
- The difficulties have been > 9 months
- You're unclear about what to focus on
How will I Matter Training help you?
When you understand what is happening at a deeper level - everything looks different and your decision making will change
Confusion to Clarity
Training in the I Matter Framework offers a way of understanding everyday and complex problems that just makes sense. You will start on strong foundations.
Assessment and guidance ensures that you and others can work together keeping focussed on the skills you and your child need to see results on the details that matter
We plan for a longer view - You've got time to find your feet and focus on the details without hunting for a quick fix. This is a learning journey that takes time for everyone.
I was skeptical that after so long, anything could help, but the approach carefully taught us ideas and then supported us as we made key changes. Just a few months later, I can't believe the changes - we are all working together and our child is so much happier and more confident."
Parent and professional of child with complex anxiety.
A Carefully Stepped Plan
First you complete a brief registration so we can recommend a customised plan. This can be followed by an assessment, some initial training, a consultation and an initial recommendations process
Then you spend some time studying the I Matter Framework in more depth so that you can understand what the research is saying about how to best help your child.
Then we support you as you build your confidence in putting your learning into practice so as to support healthier happier relationships with your child
An I Matter approach helps you to help your child
Why an I Matter Approach is different..?
Our Mission and Your Mission... should you choose to accept it... is to develop your insight and skills so you can help your focus child with their anxious or challenging behaviour.
Through participation in an I Matter Challenge you will carefully explore what important research evidence on children’s mental health and well-being is REALLY saying - so that in 1-6 months time, you and others will be moving forward with confidence in personal, professional and/or organisational roles to make a positive and sustained difference for one or more children - and for yourself.
A Carefully Stepped Plan: Awareness Stage
The first stages of I Matter Training are all about awareness and your own direct relationships with children. The focus is on professionals who work in schools or in direct care roles.
Step 1: Acknowledge the
In the First Steps Course you are introduced to an I Matter Approach and to some of the initial starting ideas
The I Matter Intensive :
The I Matter Intensive introduces the core theory on which an I Matter Approach is based
Take Care of You Take Stock:
In the check in process we explore how to use assessments to see what the next steps and priorities are
This is a theory to practice stage with active coaching that gives you feedback on your practice
The Skills of the Wellbeing Wheel
The I Matter Network and Wellbeing Wheel explore the everyday applications and skills
The Extended Journey: Stage 1: Deepen and Extend
The extended journey is an option for those who support children with raised concerns where there is a need for more support over a longer period of time. This is also a confidence building stage for those interested in going onto supporting others.
You will revisit all of the key elements of the I Matter Framework. This time, concepts and ideas will feel more familiar and your confidence will be stronger
We will go into much more detail about the process of development, helping you understand what to look out for and why and how to use your understanding
Then we apply the I Matter Framework to a wide range of specialist situations to explore how the I Matter Framework can inform effective decisision making
What's Included in the First Steps Starter Consultation?
We aim to guide you with a plan to
meet your needs
Where there are Raised Concerns
there is a more in-depth registration process
Getting Started and First Steps Training
In the first stages of training we aim
to introduce you to some key ideas that
will help you to help your child
In the consultation we explore your initial
learning and talk through next steps options.
What's Included in the I Matter Intensive Course?
the symptoms of wellbeing and
the I Matter Model, Framework and Process
for understanding the way
forward in challenging situations
they are and why they matter
and of the alarm response to threat
Essential Aspects of the Adult role
- What you need to know as key in your role
Bonuses and Extras
Weekly Discussion Groups
Opportunities to ask questions and learn
Support for your learning journey.
Q&A Community Wheel Library
Learn about the applications of
I Matter to a range of everyday challenges
I Matter Core Network Membership
An opportunity to extend your learning
on completion of the Intensive
Extension Options for Parents-Carers
Bespoke Support Package
Work with us via a customised plan
of individualised support
Join the I Matter Network
Be part of an I Matter Informed
Community and explore applications
Using Assessment Effectively
On completion of the Intensive we look
in detail at how to assess your child's needs & progress.
Theory to Practice Coaching
Theory to Practice coaching is an opportunity
to get immediate daily feedback on
Join the Extended Journey
Get longer term support in
putting Theory into practice
Become a Link Parent or Parent Mentor
Share the benefits of your
learning with others.
Costs and Options for Parents-Carers
Every family and situation is a little bit different and so we aim to customise the core I Matter Journey to meet varied needs. The basic I Matter Training consists of the First Steps and the I Matter Intensive Course. After this there is an Extended Journey.
However if you have a child where there are some Raised Concerns then the most important first step is an in depth assessment and recommendations process and there is a need to think about a longer term study plan because I Matter doesn't offer any quick fixes. There is a lot to learn and the process of learning takes commitment. If you have the support of an I Matter Link or Lead Professional you can contact us for a conversation about what options are possible.
Funding Options for Parents-Carers
Please contact us if you have questions
You apply with a recommendation from a professional who knows you and your child - preferably someone who has completed the I Matter Intensive and is an approved Link Professional.
You are working with an approved I Matter Lead Professional who has applied for funding through their own systems or via our bursary scheme. Those eligible for a bursary are always asked to contribute something.
“I loved this course and learned so much”
“This course helped us work better together”