I Matter Face to Face or Intensive Intervention
I Matter Training can be used as an introductory training for preventative practices or it can be used to inform face to face or more intensive work. In an intensive approach the assessment materials and training resources can be used to inform a short face to face psychoeducational series or a much more intensive work joined up team approach across home and school.
Repairing a Relationship Between 16 year old Daughter and Mother and Wider Family (had been on eggshells since aged 3 years - long list of diagnoses - severe destructive challenging behaviour in the home for years)
I wanted to say thank you for enabling my daughter and I to start to repair our relationship and give us a firm foundation on which to build. Working with you using I Matter has really helped us to understand how we each react differently to situations and how we affect others with our actions. My daughter has gone from being very reluctant to participate to attending sessions with out hesitation even though some sessions have been very difficult and emotional. I am no longer walking on egg shells or dreading going home. My daughter has also repaired the relationship with her Auntie - huge step! Her recent support when my Dad passed away in November was amazing. The service is priceless, changes lives and is very much needed. Kindest regards.
Lancashire Mum and TA
(2 initial sessions with parents, 3 initial sessions with Mum and daughter, 3 further joint sessions, then 1 follow-up)
The following is an account from a parent of three adoptive teens, one of whom had been on the verge of permanent exclusion from his secondary school at the time our joint work started together. He is now almost fully reintegrated and is doing well. The assessments clearly evidenced the fact that though the children were academically competent there were very significant gaps in their early social-emotional development. The intervention focussed on equipping the adults to better understand what was happening so that the actions could be taken in a clear and consistent fashion to remediate these gaps.
Our Experiences on the I Matter Intensive Home-School Support Programme
We began to work with Cathy in June 2014 – at first she worked with us as parents. She listened to what our family experiences were like and how we lived life with our children. At that time we were exhausted, despairing about the future for our children and totally confused as to how we could help them. There were 2 very clear messages that Cathy gave to us right from the beginning:
1. Our children had experienced real trauma, even if they could not consciously remember it . IT WAS VITAL THAT WE UNDERSTOOD HOW THEIR BRAINS WORKED IF WE WERE GOING TO BE ABLE TO MOVE FORWARD. We had to help them to understand this too if we were to help them change their challenging behaviour.
2. We had to get a better understanding of what was difficult for our children in life.
Cathy visited us at home and met our children with us and on their own. She used the same explanations to the children as to us as adults. One of our children has only met Cathy on this assessment visit but they have remembered a lot from Cathy’s explanation and posters about their reaction to things which is good.
Very quickly Cathy started to advise as to things that we could do at home to help. She also started to see one of our children with us regularly each week. He loves the mix of explanations about his behaviour and the games that Cathy suggests to improve certain aspects of his behaviour each week. Cathy gives us, the parents, clear activities to practise with our children and tells us how to explain to the children.
Cathy communicates with the school at least weekly. Before she worked with us we had lots of different people giving us and school general advice but not on a regular basis. Now she has ongoing regular links with everyone. This is important otherwise it is really easy for different people to get frustrated with each other about the childs behaviour and that is not helpful.
The programme is extremely hard work but it has made a huge difference e.g. my child was regularly sent home from school all last year. This year there have been very few problems.
We as parents are finally beginning to feel comfortable with what we can do to help our children and CONFIDENT in what will help them for the future. Cathy has excellent skills and knowledge that make us feel confident that she will help our children to succeed in their future lives.
Lancashire Adoptive Parent March 2015